It varies state by state, but typically you do make that decision within your divorce papers authorization. You can see the steps to divorce in your state at the link below.
No, you must show the divorce documentation before getting married.
NO... not in any state ...
You can request anything. In most cases, your spouse would have to agree before counseling could begin.
It depends if his already been divorce from his ex wife. But not before he have a written divorce papers saying he is finally divorce.
Normally, both parties do not need to be present before the notary public at the same time.
Yes signing it brings you in receipt and liable to agree with the terms of divorce or counter the terms of divorce to what fits your rights.
You would have a conflict of interest by signing the divorce papers for both parties. Your spouse must sign his own name.
If it is an un-desputed divorce and he is willing to sign, just send the papers and have him sign before a magistrate or other who can verify the signature, then he should be able to just send the papers back. There should be no need to travel to the UK, unless you would like to visit.
Divorce and domestic violence are separate issues. Not signing the divorce papers may not prevent the wife from getting the divorce and won't change any of the orders of the divorce such as property distribution, child support, etc.
Request default motion.
No.
You will be breaking the law if you marry before you have the completed, recorded, etc. final papers of your divorce. Also, the second marriage will not be legally recognized.