Does anyone out there feel their Narcissist dumped them because they got too close for comfort to the Narcissist and that made the Narcissist afraid and vulnerable?

Answer 1

To offer a true narcissist pity and love is to paint a sign on your forehead that says PREY. Narcissists are predators, make no mistake. They are chamelions, they are masters of creating the facade of being whatever you may need. Vulnerability is weakness to them and they will tell you whatever you need to hear to take advantage of you and fulfill their own needs. Narcissists need to cause suffering to others for a multitude of reasons. Narcissists have two types of tears, crocodile tears (fake tears) and tears for themselves. You will NEVER cure a narcissist, it's not a disease. Narcissistm is part of an individuals personality. Narcissists are vampires of anything and everything they can take from others whether it be financial, material or emotional. Any kindness, empathy or generosity they may show will be minimal and is only part of the con-job. Narcissists have spent their whole lives honeing their skill and if you catch them in a fabrication are devoid of any guilt but will agree with anything you may say. Keep in mind, to a narcissist you are nothing unless you are of some use to them.

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Actually, yes. Although I didn't realize at the time that I was suffering emotional abuse from my ex, I pressed on him about getting engaged. Our relationship was very rocky, yet there was an underlying infatuating love I had for him. He used to keep me hooked by dropping hints about an engagement, he took me to see the ring..etc. As my excitement was thrillingly roused by his manipulation, he became increasingly resistant and finally "dumped me" because he couldn't make good on my fantasies about our wedding/marriage. I think my own too-eager obsession with getting married may have saved me from a horrible marriage and ruin.

I like to think that he may have learned a thing or two from me about making promises you can't keep because maybe the only confidence I had in my relationship with him is knowing exactly what I want out of my future husband. It's an incredible responsibility to be in a marriage, and he couldn't bend those morals in me.

After we broke up, he continued to taunt me by saying, "You know, I WAS going to marry you, but you're too CRAZY." And that's how I learned about Narcissism.

AnswerAbsolutely true. The lengths that an N will go to are inconceivable and disgusting...in Canada it's Holt Renfrew (whatever). There is no sense in nonsense... AnswerNo, unfortunetly I think you still are trying to find something to hold onto to make sense of it. A wounded soul always fits. That way they don't have accountability. They leave because we no longer supply them with what they need. Much like if it ain't at Macy's, go to Nordstom's. N's like the path of least resistance much like all creatures and stay by their life source until the well runs dry and then move on. There is no emotional attachment to the place WHERE the water is, just the water.

I know how devistating

narcissistNo, unfortunetly I think you still are trying to find something to hold onto to make sense of it. A wounded soul always fits. That way they don't have accountability. They leave because we no longer supply them with what they need. Much like if it ain't at Macy's, go to Nordstom's. N's like the path of least resistance much like all creatures and stay by their life source until the well runs dry and then move on. There is no emotional attachment to the place WHERE the water is, just the water.

Oversimplified and doesn't lessen the pain, but reminds one of where they really stand with a N.

narcissistIts no fun to be a narcissist. You hurt people, but u think u do this for them. Only afterwards do you realise your harm... well for me at least. Maybe i am no narcissist, I do not have very strong regrets but I can understand the person that i hurt because i was in the same situation... only not so bad.

When we parted, I stayed during a week torn, with the phone in hand, wanting to call her again. Then I cried... I do have emotions... Maybe I'm not a typical narcissist, but I surely have some components. I wanted to tell her to come back, I wanted to have someone to count on, but I was afraid.

It is not fun to spend your life with no other significant other then your half-psychotic self... and to be too absorbed in your cosmic struggle to have some little fun...

Hopefully I can change now that I know a bit more about myself... maybe if i aim towards different goals and give up the temptation of manipulative love... then I can be "normal"... I'll try that.