1st things 1st...As soon as the baby is born do a DNA test. Well,
how dedicated are you to this girl? do you forsee spending your
life with her? If so, be accepting, and take the child in as your
own. If not, try to help your GF, but don't worry about the baby if
you will have no part in it's future…
Bad? Not necessarily. But immature, untrustworthy, undependable and troubled - yes. Walk away. Run.
Why do you have a boyfriend who's already a loser in the first place? Get your act together, educate yourself, and find your self worth, then hopefully you'll find a guy who isn't such a lose…
Actually, yeah, it is legal if it is non-sexual. Only if the parents disapprove can they cause some real problems. I don't see why the distinction even has to be made in the first place, for crying out it loud it's just DATING. And all this for a bunch of numbers. You're 17, and I'm sure you have a …
You have the answer to your question. FIrst do a self analysis 1)
How long have you known this boy friend? 2) How old are you and how
old is he ? 3) IS it a strong relationship or a just a physical
IF your relationship is pretty strong then and you both understand
Its a difficult job and you should get a technician to do it, If this is your first starter it will not be easy! there are clearance issues aswell as knuckle busters!
It seems to me someone that cares about her doesn't think she ready
for that type of responsiblity yet. But to me I think she has a say
so if she want to keep her on child or not. Besides its hard to
give up a baby that has been growing inside for nine months.
But I will say this, I certainly hope you're not considering getting pregnant with the hope that you will then be able to get married. Marriage and having children is not 'kiddie play'. It's very serious business. It requires maturity, responsibility, and commitment (a *life time* of it). Anyone who…
Probably not, since the age of consent in most places is 16, but the laws are different in each state. However, if it wasn't consensual he could go regardless of age.It depends on the state. In most states the age of sexual consent is 16 (in some it's higher). If an adult has sex (even if it wasn't …
If you have ADD, you can't concentrate on the subject long enough to explain it to anyone.
LOL, that was just too funny. Hey, how many ADD people does it take to change a light bulb?I don't know, how many?Let's go ride our bikes!Anyway, the book You Mean I'm not Lazy, Stupid, or Crazy? expl…
Yes, it is possible. I did it all through high school. I was always in advanced/honors classes. However, school was never very difficult for me, it was boring. I was able to goof off in class and still pass the tests and do most of the homework without doing too much studying.If you are the kind of …
There is no age to get a filling. Teeth only need to be filled if they have a cavity. Not everyone will get a cavity. But pretty much anytime a tooth is filled, it will need to be numbed with an injection. A child should have their first check up by age 4, in my opinion. The suggested age is; I'v he…
Henry, you wre absolutely right when you said "personal feelings". Collections and repoossession is just a JOB. Either the people pay or they dont pay. nothing personal about it. No need to laugh or make jokes. Its remotely possible the she was laughing at something else, coworker, ect. Just as in a…
POLICE dont care/cant get involved. Lender would love to know. Do you know who the lender is? If so, give them a call.
Not sure exactly what you mean about 'agreed to time" ect. BUT breaking into anything to repo is a NO-NO. Call a local attorney for state specific advise.
I spent 12 hours yesterday trying to get the 'Downloader.Trojan' off my computer. [Symantec's most recent update for this is June 2002!] I looked in all the forums, did all the usual 'update your virus definitions' in Norton Antivirus, multiple scans in safe mode, downloaded four 'spyware' softwares…
It is not uncommon to develop nose bleeds and ear problems when relocating to a place that has a very dry climate. The high altitude also plays a significant part. You would be much better off with a saline nasal spray. Afrin will only dry the mucus membranes of the nose out further. If you don't im…
Go to your local immigration office as soon as possible.Don't go to to immigration office,your wife will be deported due to out of status already. Instead file her papers to legalize her stay (I-485,I-130,I-765, etc.) Goodluck and Godbless.
They would have to live with you for a certain time to get a green card and if you divorce them than they have a small chance.
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After i and my lover spent about 6 years together, my boyfriend told me that we can not be together. and already We were making ready ourselves to get married this year and I was very happy and absolutely ready to marry him. this breakup started when he went a little far from the city where I live, …
You should confront him about it and make sure your assumption is true. If it is true then you may want to leave him since they usually say that "once a cheater is always a cheater." If you give him a second chance, he may just cheat on you again and then you end up by getting hurt even more.AND IF …
more than likely hes chaeting on you. hes just trying to buy your love and buy himself time away from you. he wants you around so he buys you things, but he says he needs space b/c he wants to go out and do whatever he wants. he wants his cake and he wants to eat it too. don't let him he i…
keep it to yourself, and forget about it.
This is a really hard one to figure out and you will not win no matter what you do and here is why: If you sit down and tell your girlfriend her boyfriend is cheating on her she won't believe you. She will make up (denial) in her own mind that you are …
Because he is a chauvinist! He is going by the fact he is man and this is expected of him. Thank heavens most men aren't like this. Personally I do not understand why you let him get away with this behavior 4 more times. Anyone can make a mistake once, but then you should learn from it. Oh, by th…
Dee - do you mean separated as in 1) broke up or just 2) not in the same location? If number 1, then he wasn't cheating. If number 2, then, no, your're not being unreasonable.
I've been there. Separated or together it doesn't matter. He has no business hanging out with ex-lovers no matter…
Which woman REALLY makes you feel better about everything. Which woman will see you through anything, the good, the bad, and the ugly? Which woman makes you feel like you are the only man in the world when she's with you, it's about you and not her? Who makes you feel good about being you? Good Luck…
A relationship that starts with lies and deceit is a house of cards from the beginning.
I do not believe so because can you really ever trust that person?
if there is a real connection and love most relationships could last no matter how it started
Please see my response to "Has…
Cheating On Your Long Distance Lover:
1st of all, harsh TRUTH: you're not IN love with him. You may
love him, but your not IN-LOVE with him. Loving someone and being
IN love with them are 2 completely different things and people
often confuse this feeling in relationships. For example, you love
Once you might forgive your husband for cheating, but 2 - 3 - 4 times ... kick him out! You deserve better! When you keep taking him back in he has absolutely no respect for you and certainly no respect for himself. He has it good! He knows he can have the fine life and sti…
Time will tell. If he makes a clean break with his wife and treats her with respect and tells her the truth, then MAYBE he could be your soul mate. But only if he chooses you. If he stays with the comfort of the familiar life with his wife, he is not your soul mate. keep on looking and good luck. yo…
Just a friend? How naive does he think you are. Where is the respect the trust? It's gone correct? If there is any hope for this marriage, you BOTH need to seek out a GOOD marriage Councillor, Now. You need to start helping yourself repair any damage this has done inside of you, to salvage your own …
No, there is no problem with it as long as there is no sex involved, when the 16 year old turns 18 they can have sex. But personally, I've met a 23 year old that is married to a 65 year old, so no there is no problem with that, because I can't have sex with my girlfriend; she's 18 and I'm not 18 yet…
Florida requires that any person under the age of 18 wishing to get married have permission from all living custodial parents or legal guardians. An exception to this allows for the judge (at the judge's sole discretion - i.e. the judge can chose NOT to issue the license) to issue a marriage licens…
I am not certain I am reading this correctly, but...NO! If you are married to someone and do not get legally divorced, you cannot marry someone else. That would be bigamy, and is illegal. The fact that the girl is considered underage, in the state she/they reside in, is irrelevant.I think the questi…
Mississippi has no residency requirement, so, yes, even if you live in another state, you can get married in Mississippi. However, you have to have parental consent if you're *under 21*. (I did verify this today with the county clerk's office)
I think in Michigan you have to be 18 in order to get married. You can date a 19 year old but you can't marry them. It's only a couple more years anyhow, what's the rush? You can live with the 19 year old and your parents can't stop you, I know that for sure. Good luck!
you can be 16 to marry in…
According to Texas Penal Code, Chapter 22, that would be sexual
assault of child, which is Texas' version of statutory rape. If
charged, the 22-year-old would go to jail, bail would be set in the
thousands of dollars, and even more expensive legal representation
would become necessary. If convicted,…
If her mother is her sole guardian, then yes. If her father has joint custody, then she will need his permission also.
Marriage - Legal Requirements in washington: The legal age for both male and female applicants is 18 years. If younger than 18, permission of one's father, mother or guardian is required; applicants under the age of 17 must also have the consent of the Superior Court. If either party is under the ag…
LEGGALY THE LAW CANT DO MUCH ABOUT THAT BECAUS YOU ARE ALMOST LEGAL ANYWAYS . THEY WONT WAIST THEIR TIME ON A 17 YEAR OLD.I KNOW THIS FROM PERSONAL EXPERIANCE.
You should wait a while longer to get married. You may think you are really in love, but that's what I thought when I met my daughters father when I was 16. Now I'm 20, and my daughter is 4 months old, and I don't want to be with him anymore. Time really does change things. I thought at that age, t…
I'm not sure what you mean by "be with", do you mean sexually? If so, the answer is *hell, yeah!* In most states the age of sexual consent is 16, in some it's even higher. There is no state where it's as low as 12. If you break the law, you can be arrested, charged, and if convicted spend a little t…
sure, you can date her. You could date a 9 year old if you wanted to. The legal problems arise from intercourse, but in this case you're fine because, in all states, the age of consent is no higher than 16.
There are no laws regarding dating *if the minor's parents have given permission for…
Actually, since you have a child there are several states in which you can get married and move out w/out parental consent. These states include Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Maryland and Oklahoma allow pregnant teens or teens who have already had a child to get married without parental cons…
No, in NC you have to be 18 to marry without parental consent.
If parental consent is involved, it is a-okay!
as long as the mother gives permission, then they can get married in court. a judge can give you the right to get married with a parental concent. you must sign saying that you give concent, and then start planning the wedding.
It depends on the state where you reside. Each state has laws governing the legal age of consent. The law pertaining to a sexual or other relationship of a minor and adult is different than those concerning emancipation. In this scenario it is possible the man could be found responsible of "contribu…
There are no states that will allow a 15-year-old to marry without parental consent/court approval/special circumstances. Some states wouldn't allow it period.
You could purchase a set of home plans for a few hundred dollars, and then hire an architect to put in the items you want and/or that are required by code. You could save money on this by following other ways, but it seems that for proper planning and cost estimates that this would be one thing not …
In the US, you are not obligated to reveal this information, as we've all committed various crimes at time, but never been prosecuted or convicted for it, such as jaywalking, running red lights, speeding, etc.. If you have been convicted of a crime and it is still on your criminal record, then you m…
Ask a lot of the questions that you would be asking them if you were the interviewer, instead of the interviewee.
How long have you worked at this company? Do you like your job? What is your typical day like? What would my typical day be like? Where do you hope to be in five years? Where does this …
a boyfriend can absolutely give a girlfriend a Claddagh ring.on the right hand when worn, heart facing out.. means the wearers heart is available - single ... heart facing in the heart of the wearer is taken.. on the left hand.. facing in.. married. if out.. i have no idea..the metal, p…
Narcissists are addicted to a drug known as "Narcissistic Supply". Attention (good OR bad), adulation, applause, fame, celebrity, notoriety - are all narcissistic supply. The people who supply these consistently, reliably, and predictably, are called "Narcissistic Supply Sources".Why sh…
Your friend is going to see what they want to see; so all you can
do is try to convince him the best you can. If he doesn't see what
you see then you will just have to let him come around to it on his
Does he respect your boundaries and privacy? Does he ignore your wishes (for instance, by choosing from the menu or selecting a movie without as much as consulting you)? Does he disrespect your boundaries and treats you as an object or an instrument of gratification (materializes on your doorstep …
If the abuse continues - you cannot make the relationship work.
You both need to get counseling, separate and together. If the abuse doesn't stop, you need to get out of the relationship. It will probably be a long hard "journey", but if you are both willing to work on it, you w…
Abusive and controlling. He needs to get some help. That is not a healthy relationship. One person should never be the parent. Both partners are equals. If you don't think he'll get help, or if you ask and he refuses, you need to leave him. It's not healthy to live that way. It will probably just ge…
No, that is self abuse and manipulation of your boyfriend. You may have some sort of chemical imbalance that makes you want to hit and hurt yourself when under stress. You should go see a doctor and talk to them about this. It can probably be helped with some daily medications. You will…
I am not making excuses for him, but he probably got more angry when you showed him because he was embarrassed and suprised at himself. BUT...it was not OK for him to leave bruises or "manhandle" you just because he was angry. You need to try to talk to him about it. If he gets angry again…
I think that you answered your own question by saying that for a while you believed it. Abusers manipulate their partners into believing that they are the one at fault.
You are being abused, if: (1) He repeats a certain behavior (2) You asked him to stop (for whatever reason). (3) He refuses …
Do you always know exactly where he is, who he is with, and what they are doing? When he isn't at work, is he always with you, doing what you want to do? Do you get upset if another woman shows any interest (not necessarily sexual interest) in him?
People are not objects. You cannot "posses…
Relationships are full of give and take. It's not fair to you that you are always the one giving and never get anything in return. And worse than that, they're not taking your feelings in to consideration at all! If you've honestly sat them down and talked it over with them about how bad their actio…
Not an easy target and, in the long run, unworkable unless your partner is also willing to make some concessions and adapt himself.
I tried to stay in an abusive relationship trying to suppress my resentment from coming though. But the abuse became much worse and it became harder to suppres…
Men with mental health problems have ambiguous attitudes towards women and tend to treat them and think about them as objects in a collection.
Absolutely not, especially if you're not even allowed to mention that it bothers you. It's inconsiderate, to say the least.
Go with how you feel about this person. You can't totally judge them unless you have a "real" reason not to trust them, but how you feel about someone the first time you meet them is usually right. Just be cautious and watch that person around you and the people you care about.
slap her and tell your friend "boyfriends do not hit their
girlfriends" only cowards do that.
Because they want sex. Or because they want money. Or because they want narcissistic supply. Or because they want some other form of gratification. Intimacy is not the only prize around.
The silent treatment is a form of abuse favored by verbal and emotional abusers.
Abusers are terrified of intimacy and commitment. They are afraid to lose control. So they try to alienate their nearest and dearest to avoid these "pitfalls" and, sometimes, to preempt inevitable abandonment.Since you…
Few people - especially if they are really narcissistic - take kindly to being called narcissists.
Abusers offend against their victims for a variety of reasons, pathological envy being only one of them.Pathological envy is a strong motive in narcissism, for instance. Additionally, to cast themselves in the role of "master" (Jeffrey Satinover's term), narcissists cast others in the roles of disci…
It is a warning sign of being possibly abusive.It's a form of control and that's where abuse usually starts.
Abusers seek to stifle the personal autonomy of their victims and to detach them from their support networks.
It is normal for a guy to say that, and it is because their jealous…
Talking and sharing is an integral and crucial part of a relationship. Denying you such intimacy is abusive.
yes!abusers have an unequal sense of their "relationships"; whatever they give, or "suffer" (which may include giving caring or attention to others) is highly valuable in their eyes (w…
You don't explain. Its' y our right to go out with friends and have fun.If he can't understand that or grip that reality, GET RID OF HIM!He is controlling and that tends to lead to worse forms of abuse (verbal,physical etc..).
Possessiveness is an emotion. It is not grounded in logic and ca…
Not necessarily. But past violent behavior presages and reliably predict future violent conduct.
Nothing. You did all you could and should. Your friend is an adult and has the right to make her own decisions and commit her own mistakes.
I would just leave her alone. To keep pushing the issue would only cause your friendship to weaken.
What's the point of sharing your life with anyone who doesn't love you, abuser or not? You have a right to be loved!
I believe you already know the answer to your own question. You must overcome what you believe is holding you in the relationship. NO relationship is worth staying in if there …
If it is your house you have to give no reason for her exit, unless you two have a contract. You are not responsible for someone else's situations.
As a friend, she deserves an explanation. But she has no right to more than that.
its not very easy for ppl to let go of abusive relationships whether they r young or old..it needs equal strength n patience to survive an abusive relationsip..however if ur young n not let go of the abuse it is likely to impact on ur confidence n self esteem.... do not try to hold on to t…
Be there for her steadfastly and compassionately when she needs you. Help her to recognize that she has been abused. Help her to decide never to be abused or to accept being abused again. The best way to help ur friend get over n start a new life after an abusive relationship is to be there for he…
I would refuse as well. Without marriage, there are no grounds to want this to be carried out. It would even scare me away.
I think it's one of those questions, in the circumstances you describe, where, while you have a perfect right to ask, he has a perfect right to refuse to answer.In his…
Most abusive people are subtle in their luring. They can act like nothing happen because they believe nothing happened. Abusers deny any responsbility or take any accountability of hurting or destroying. I don't know what happened to you, but know this your best weapon against them is to warn others…
You two need to talk. Your partner needs understands the limits. Otherwise, it is a criminal offense.
Be careful what you wish for! No, he is not abusive, but you do have a problem if you like your sex on the rough side. It's a dangerous place to go. You are sending very mixed messages to your bo…
Abusers and criminals invariably deny that they had acted abusively or criminally.
I would say to see if they can still control you. The reason they deny an criminal activity or abusive activity it is because they believe they did nothing wrong. God Bless
one scenario suggests that…
Having been betrayed by your "friend", you avoid her hencefort at all costs.
Well, the only thing you can do is make peace with it. It's done but also remember what happened and try not to make the same mistake twice. It might seem really bad right now but it will die down.... D…
Something has to be the 'trigger' for any type of abuse. If the abuse has been going on for long and I suspect it has if you are considering walking away, then whatever the trigger is is probably something that will never be forgotten and unlikely to be forgiven. If violence is…
This is not a good sign. Possessiveness and control freakery are sometimes precursors of abuse.
Those are all red flags and I wouldn't adventure any further. My ex boyfriend left his previous relationship only 2-3 weeks (unknown to me) before entering into ours. He moved in with me right away…
The first - crucial - steps are to acknowledge that he is abuser and seek help. Abusers are usually in denial:If the abuser is also a narcissist (suffers from the Narcissistic Personality Disorder - NPD), this may be of some assistance:
From what I can gather I say no to being narcissist for being outgoing.The Bfriend is embarrassed and feels ignored. Well he wants you to act the way he wants you to and he wants you all to himself. Seems to me that if a person is trying to change you then they don't like you for who you are. "The R…
Answer You tell them again and again what you think they should do (when asked) and you refer them to relevant literature.
Abusive relationships have a positive aspect or the abuser could not attract a partner. The positive aspect diminishes as the abuse grows. The abused partner wants it to…
Because he feels insecure, now that the baby is demanding your full attention and affection and this is his way of reasserting and exerting control over you.
This is very common and usually it's a matter of both of you getting use to a routine. A new baby takes up lots of mama's time. Get y…
There is no rule in these matters - so, no, it is not universally true. It depends on the narcissist in question.
To be in an abusive relationship is a roller coaster of sorts. Up and down with emotions and days which go from laughing to complete terror as you are emotionally and physically assualted. When you have ended the relationship just remember you made the right decision. Whether or not you have childre…
Very typical. It is called the idealization-devaluation cycle.
"Is it narcissistic to come on strong tell you how good you are for him ask you not to break his heart then say he only wants to see you twice a month?" No. Its a healthy and welcomed start.
A voluntary long-distance relationship is an oxymoron. There is little you can do when you are not there to help her. You may wish to refer her to these articles:
I am sorry to hear you are going through this.There is only one solution to this problem .. you move to where she is. I know this …
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It could mean a bladder infection. There are many other things it could be also. She should be taken to the doctor to find out for sure so it can be taken care of. There isn't always a burning feeling when peeing with a bladder infection.
i would ask her some very sensitive and gentle quest…
No, it is not unusual for some men to dress up as a girl. The
majority of men don't, but it's not unusual and many men do this in
the privacy of their home. This does not necessarily mean the man
is gay in any way. There are men that actually wear women's panties
under their dress pants. Some men, i…
The main person you will have difficulty loving when depressed is yourself. There is such low self esteem and such low hope levels that it's very difficult to feel love at all. The outside is only a reflection of the inside.........if there is no love for yourself on the inside, how is it possible t…
Somebody else might point it out to you. You might start making some irrational decisions about your future. You will know by your mood swings. You might start feeling really negative in the morning, feeling really tired. During the day you will feel like everything is crushing on top of you. It mig…