How can parents separate from a sociopathic adult child?

Answer 1

I have a step child with a narcissistic personality disorder. There is some overlap between a sociopath and a narcissist. First, most narcissists have enablers. The enabler needs help and therapy so they will stop behaviors that enable the narcissists.

I have found conflict can be avoided with narcissists by ignoring them and also by corresponding with letters or email. This is more effective than direct conflict.

I have told my stepson that he will be thrown out of my house while he is visiting if he starts another verbal assault I have also warned him that I can request a temporary restraining order. Because narcissists understand power and control, he has started to back off with his aggressive 'I'm always right' approach.

I made the mistake of allowing him to move into my house when he was having some hard times. It took me more than four years to get him out. During that period I lost the use of my garage to his storage and he had had his personal articles in every room in my house except the master bedroom. He was like a tiger trying to mark his territory and even told me once that the house belonged to his mother, the enabler.

I had to disconnect his computer to stop him from visiting four to five times a week. He has been gone for more than two months but still does not have internet or cable in his new home. Next month I plan to rekey the doors next so he can no longer enter my home without ringing the doorbell. Until I removed his PC, he would walk into my house unannounced. I also had to contact the post office to get his address changed from my home.

I have taken on the role of his antagonist. I simply don't put up with much from him, but have found an indirect approach works the best. Part of the problem in dealing with narcissists is the co-dependent enabler. The enabler is very supportive of the narcissist, particularly if they are children. The antagonist may find himself or herself in a losing situation with the narcissist and the enabler ganging up on him or her.

Since I have have two more my children living at home and they got to see my narcissist step brother in action for the last four years, the odds are now in my favor during disputes. My stepson considers his two brothers to be 'brainwashed' because they do not side with him.

Narcissists have been described as psychic vampires who suck the life out of you. Keep them away from your family mas much as possible, and avoid contact with them unless it is written or email.

Let them know who is boss and don't be afraid to throw them out of you house when they stat acting up. Threaten to use a restraining order if their horrid behavior continues. And try to work things out with the co-dependent enabler, your spouse. Avoid direct crtiicism of the narcissist child whenever possible.

Answer 2

get the child away from the sociopath immediately! the child may become severely emotionally scarred if you don't

Answer 3

20 years of brutal negotiation. You cannot give a sociopath an inch.