0
How can you make someone see that an abuser is in fact an abuser and his abusiveness is what needs to be dealt with rather than his anger?
Wiki User
∙ 8y ago
Hi there
It's anger that makes the person abusive. EXAMPLE: If the abuser has grown up in an abusive family, then they have learned from that environment and since they were children at the time and had no control over the situation they internalized their anger. People that learn abuse also build a protection wall around them. Once an adult they let all that anger fly, and begin abusing others. Another example: A child that is very spoiled and given every thing they want simply by having a hissy fit, learns how to control others in a bad way. If they can't have what they want when they want it as an adult they can lash out and it can be by abusive measures.
Abusers are about control and therefore, every action they take they feel is the right one and everyone else is wrong. Abusers seldom go for counseling and if you can manage to haul them in to a counselor they are in a denial mode and consider it everyone elses fault they are way they are and will especially blame the very person they are abusing.
Abusers are manipulators and thus, they manipulate family and friends around you. They can be charming, do things for the person to the point of being gushy. For some reason the human race walks around in denial themselves and as long as they are being treated well, then the person is A-OK and the other person complaining about them belongs in a rubber room.
You don't need vindication from anyone! You know, so why are trying so hard to prove it to others. It won't make you gain strength. You have a choice of either walking away from the abuser and seeking help. There are "Abused Women's Centers" in most cities and there are programs for men that are abused as well.
Good luck Marcy
Wiki User
∙ 8y ago
Add your answer:
Earn +20 pts
How does one deal with the anger resulting from being falsely Portrayed as an Abuser when in truth You are NO such person?
If it is not true then why get annoyed. If someone is accusing you falsely then that is slander and defamation. See a lawyer.
What are the ways in which you cannot be heavily involved with an abuser but want to keep the relationship?
Abuser of what? drugs or you? Convince them to go to anger management, or rehab. talk to them and try to make them stop.
How do abusers respond to a victim's anger?
It depends on the abuser and what's going on in his mind. It also depends on how the victim expresses anger. Unfortunately, there isn't a simple answer to that question. It could take years of therapy to help you understand more about the dynamics of the abuser/abused relationship.
How do you answer a question by an abuser if you know whatever answer you give will invoke violence?
answer without bias - this will not invoke anger or answer with confusion
What does it mean to anger someone?
To anger someone means to provoke them to anger or make them mad.
Why do abused teens feel the need to fight the abuser ALL the time even if they're not doing anything?
Anger. Often it's a response to feelings of rejection, equating the abuse with a sense of being emotionally rejected by the abuser. Anger is a common response by a depressed individual. Especially depressed males.
How can a potential abuser how can you get help?
Get into batterer counseling (even if its verbal/ emotional abuse) ASAP (NO Anger Management - that does NOTHING for abusers)
Why is Anger Fall called Anger Fall?
Someone named it Anger Fall.
Can verbal abuse be helped?
Only if the abuser wants to be helped and commits to a minimum of one year of BATTERER Counseling. (Anger Management is useless for abusers.)
Why would it anger someone to have to stand up for themselves?
People have to stand up for themselves when others do something wrong. This usually causes anger. For example, if someone says something offensive another person could stand up for themselves and tell them to stop rather than letting the comment pass.
What is righteous anger?
Rightous anger is against something which is fundamentally wrong, rather than something purely personal.
Could sibling abuse lead to sibling madness?
* Unfortunately yes, sibling abuse can lead to such anger the abuser could beat the person to death or, sometimes it can lead to murder. The victim of the abuser will not likely go mad, but will certainly need psychological counseling to get over the trauma.
