How do you get over feeling like you are a loser because your ex-Narcissist has moved on and doesn't care about you?

Answer 1

1.I know it sounds kind of childish but one of the best ways to get over a breakup is to ignore them. Men Love attention/and woman love it just as much. When you call them or answer their calls you are just letting them know how much you are thinking of them. Which is something you really don't want. Which means being their friend is out of the question. 2. Slowly begin to get rid of all things that remind you of them. Including bedsheets, curtains, anything at all that makes you think of them. If it includes moving come on..Get over it don't move just because of your crush and don't go to the extreme of remodeling a room. It's not like you are rich. keep the most important as a healing process. When you feel it's time get rid of that item. 3. Spoil yourself..use this time to learn more about yourself and learn about your goals and who you really are. 4. Vent your pain in letters, poems, notes, e-mails..etc. 5. What ever you do don't rebound. Going out there and finding the first man and doing w.e with him is the wors idea. It's not going to help you get over your X it's just going to make things worse. 6. enjoy being single.I know it sounds weird but sometimes being single can be a lot less stressful then being with a boy toy. 7. Don't put yourself down. Often when we have been dumped we have a tendency to put ourselves down. Believe me when they say it's me not you it's true. Just because they were too dumb to give you up doesn't mean that you are pathetic. 8. Share you feelings with friends that you can trust in to keep secrets and not to judge you. 9. Keep yourself busy..Take up hobbies and learn how to be independent again. Warning consuming yourself in work is not what i mean. But don't sit at home all the time. Sometimes there's such a thing as thinking way too much. 10. Follow these tips and you are sure to receive a healthy recovery. You got some good advice from the above poster. The thing you need to do is LEARN about the narcissist and see what makes them tick! By doing so you won't feel like a loser, but know for sure that the Narcissist ALWAYS LOSES! It may be hard for you to realize it at first, but they actually did you a favor by leaving you. It wasn't your choice and it wasn't your time, but now, you have a chance to make a good life for yourself as you move on. Do things that make you feel good--not in comparison or because of others, just a feeling of wellbeing. The basics--eating balanced meals, exercising, spending time with friends (NOT talking about N) and trying new experiences will help you through this time. You won't always feel good at first, but eventually you will get there because when you do the right things, the right things happen. Take heart.

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Answer 2

Continue no contact with the N. You will go through the stages of grief but you will heal. In 4-6 months you will feel better. Eventually you realize they they are truly the scum of the earth. They never cared about you and lived off your very soul to feed their insecurities and inflated false sense of self. You deserve better. Get out and meet new people; people without a personality disorder. Drink in how vastly differently they treat you and make you feel. Good luck.

Answer 3

I am going thru this now..been 6 mos and am still feeling devestated by how he dumped me so cruelly...of course without any indication this was going to happen..or maybe there were indications i just chose to ignore those red flags. You cannot get over them because they portrayed to you a false sense of security/love and everything you wanted in your life with a partner. You were real and honest in your feelings and love...unfortunately they suckered you in that they felt the same oh course they did not..a huge pill to swallow i know.i still have a hardtime getting my head around this realization as he was everything i wanted. I feel sad for you as i know you are going thru what alot of us have and are going thru when the realization hits us that we were nothing but a game. Trust and believe that it was not you..he will move on to someone else for sure and will eventually treat that girl the same..they can never know what real love is..be glad that you can and will love someone again and it will be real and reciprocated

Answer 4

Give yourself a serious reality check. Stop pining over a delusion. Everything about a narcissist is an overblown illusion created to lure you in. Think about what you got out of the relationship and what you had to give. It is impossible to have a healthy relationship when it's all about one person only. Move on.