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How do you move on after a verbally and emotionally abusive with a husband of 12 years if you have two small children and your husband doesn't want you anymore but you still love him?
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∙ 17y ago
Don't kill him understand that you think you still love him it's quite possible that deep inside that you do but think about the times he disrespected you out of your name and think to yourself do really still want that and it the answer is no don't worry about him anymore in time he will see how much you loved him and then he will feel bad that he did you wrong karma is real and it happens what goes around comes around and all things you reap you will so. So just trust and believe there is somebody out there for you that won't disrespect you but treats you the way you deserve and stay in prayer God is the key to all your problems time will heal all wounds remember that. It's always a tough one when a mate (of either sex) tells you they don't love you any longer. It happened to me as well. I didn't have children with this person so it wasn't as complicated as your problem, but nonetheless it hurt like crazy. I divorced the rat! He was cheating on me (many times) was verbal and physically abusive to me. I did put up with it for 3 1/2 years, but gave myself a good slap and wondered where my fight and dignity had gone. I had to get on my own feet, get my independence back again and look after myself. I did it and so do thousands of other women. A verbally abusive partner can leave as many scars on a person as a physical abuser. Your husband has had his way for far too long. By taking his verbal abuse you have enabled his behavior. Verbal and physical abusers basically brain-wash their victims (yes, you are a victim) by fear, and the necessity for you and your children to walk on egg shells around this man. He's a controller! Don't sit there saying you love him, but get darn mad! This man has just stomped all over you and your children. By the two of you going at it verbally (or you just sit and take it) is not good for the children and they are picking up the habits of this behavior. The sons are more than likely going to pick up the traits of the father and not respect women in the future and daughters are more apt to pick up the apathy of the mother. This is no longer about you, but your children! Get mad, get moving and get help! There are women's abuse centers in your area and if you can't find them then call your local "Mental Health" and they will guide you through the process. Love is not about hurting someone and you are just confused and frightened at this point. If you seek help you will gain more strength and independence and able to face up to your verbal abuser and give him options. He can either seek help or you're leaving with the kids. You're children SHOULD NEVER have to put up with this whether you love this man or not. Good luck hon Unfortunately, it takes two to create a loving relationship. One person can't do it alone. If he hasn't actually moved out, then you should grit your teeth and take action to ensure the safety of yourself and your children. That is the most important thing here. Hopefully, you are currently working, but if you aren't you need to find shelter and/or some help to find a good job. (there may be paid training available to find a good job to support your kids)
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How do you make a verbally abusive husband feel he has no control over you anymore?
by leaving him and staying in you mom's place.
What does it mean when an emotionally abusive man says he does not love you anymore?
An emotionally abusive man (or woman) is not capable of true, pure love. The person does this to you because he or she lacks self esteem, as hard as that may seem to understand. Saying he doesn't "love" you anymore is another way for him to emotionally and mentally abuse you.
Does ADHD cause someone to be 'emotionally abusive'?
It can. People with ADD don't usually have the social skills that most have. They say things without thinking which is sometimes hurtful. When they are children they don't do this intentionally, however, because of peoples anger toward them for such comments and often being accused of deliberately hurting people some will just say the hell with it and not care anymore or begin deliberately doing it. People with ADD are more likely to be abused and so they themselves are more likely to become abusive. We learn to treat others from the way we have been treated. ADD does not automatically cause someone to be emotionally abusive and not all ADD people are abusive but people with the disorder are more likely then average to be abusive both emotionally and physically.
When do you leave an addict?
When you don't love them anymore, or the addiction is so harmful to your relationship, it is emotionally and physically damaging to you or your children.
Why do abusers get mad that someone else can cause you to react emotionally and can control you and not them anymore?
Because they consider you their property...FOREVER. They will always be like this. I would love to see the madness end, but I have an abusive ex and its not happening yet.(11 years later)
Why are black men so verbally abusive?
A part of the reason is that Black men don't see their words as verbally abusive. Why? The taunts and teasing involved in "capping" or "playing the dozens" involves quick wit and the ability to talk about someone in a stinging way that is still humorous and makes others laugh. Men often play these word games with other men and they all seem fine with it. However, when those words are turned upon women and said with the intent to bring a woman down, put her in her place, or make her feel small and insignificant, its not funny anymore. I believe the larger reason Black men are verbally abusive is their ongoing struggle with self esteem and feelings of powerlessness. Striking out with name calling, put downs, and words which attack the core of Black women's pride in their accomplishments looks education achievements and sexuality give these verbally abusive men a sense of power. What they are doing is putting others down to build themselves up. Such behavior may provide a temporary sense of satisfaction as he watches her face crumble in shame or humiliation, but in reality he is merely demonstrating how poorly he feels about himself. Finally, I think it is important to note that verbally abusive men come in all sizes, shapes and colors and are not limited to Black men. The issue is though that most women tend to date men of their own ethnicity, and therefore Black women (who interact primarily with Black men) are more likely to be verbally, physically or psychologically abused by a Black man moreso than any other race of man.
He is not emotionally available anymore?
When someone tells another person they are not emotionally available to them any longer it means that person is drained mentally by the others emotions and they are tired with the relationship.
Stepson who lives in Texas with an verbally abusive mother He wants to come and live with us in Nevada and he's 16 Can anyone tell me if he can just leave?
verbally abuse is bad! If he just leaves his mother will probably take you to court. I would say yes he can just leave but it will turn into a fight. You should put him on a plane to come to you and make him leave a message to his mom saying that he is leaving cause he cant stand her verbal abuse anymore and he is leaving to come live with you and it will be ok.
Do controlling and verbally abusive men change?
I'm sorry dear, but my answer to that question is a big NO, trust me I have experience in this department. A little embarrased to say but have been trhough it a few times. You are the one that may need the help and get away from somebody that is doing this to you. It has nothing to do with you and don't let him let you think that. It's all about him. Move on honey. You deserve better
How do you tell a friend not to hurt you mentally anymore but she thinks its a joke?
Avoid them. A person who harms you, either emotionally or physically, is no friend.
Why did Eminem adopt his niece?
to give them better life and because he loves children their parents coukdt provie the necessary thing for them to have a good life whereas hes rich and can and wants to help them and cares about them
How can you tell your boyfriend you don't want him to touch you anymore?
Verbally. If he doesn't comply, then he'll figure it out once he's locked up and charged with sexual assault.
