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How do you trust your spouse after he has cheated on you and you have children together and you are trying to work things out?
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∙ 14y ago
I'm going through something similar. I think that if you decide intellectually that you are going to work this out, you have to just force yourself to put it behind you. If on an intellectual level you believe you can trust him again, you have to just DO it. Bringing it up isn't going to help the healing. I just ordered the Mort Fertel book series on relationships, and I'm hopeful it will help. Heck, Oprah liked it ...
It is a really difficult thing to do, and I am struggling with it every day. Good luck to you.
Also, make sure that the responsibility on not just on you to magically trust him again. The responsibility has to be on him as well to earn your trust. Slowly. If you both put in the effort, then over time, trust can be regained. If either of you does not do their respective part, then it won't happen. Don't struggle alone - he should put in as much effort to save the relationship. And it might be painful, especially at first, but it is the only way.
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How do you tell your spouse you cheated?
Some things are better left unsaid, DON"T TELL
For the person that was cheated on does it feel like their whole being will never heal after an affair by their spouse?
People who are cheated on by their spouse go through a grieving time much like that of losing someone you love to death and, in ways it is a death of the bond of trust that was broken by your spouse and crushed the good memories that you both had together. This leaves the spouse that was cheated on feeling as if they have been in another world and why didn't they see the signs of their spouse cheating, but, when you are true to the one you love you are not expecting them to cheat on you. The spouse that was cheated on may feel inadequate (they did not do all the right things); are not attractive and often blame themselves when, in fact, they most likely did nothing wrong. Men or women who want to cheat do so because they can and often need no excuse to do so. Individuals do not know what they are capable of 100% so how can they expect to know what their spouse is capable of. The spouse that was cheated on has to decide if this was a first time event of cheating by their spouse and then discuss with that spouse if they are willing to go to marriage counseling to learn the tools to know how to handle problems in a marriage and strengthening the marriage, but, if the cheating spouse has cheated before then it is time to part company and move on with your own life. Most women are very strong individuals and for those that do not know themselves well they need to get back out into society; rely on family and friends for support and realize that indeed women can get along without men. When the woman realizes she is stronger than she thought and enjoys her own company as well as her new-found independence without relying on a man this is when she will be more successful in a new relationship. Time heals and yes, you will heal.
Why some women allow their spouse to cheat?
Three things: They haven't got the money or courage to get up and live. For their children's sakes. They know no better. If you get cheated on, move and start again, you can do better. You don't need the stress of some geezer not seeing what's good for him!
You have found out someone cheated on spouse visa what should you do now?
Your question is a bit complex but if you want to know what you need to do because you found out a spouse is having an affair and you know the other spouse, you need to talk to the person who is cheating to stop because of your friend. If this spouse don't listen to your plea, then tell him or her that you will talk to his or her spouse. That is all you can do. The rest will be them to work things out.
What should you do if you fight constantly because she cheated and lied?
well, if she cheated and lied about it you probably shouldn't be together anymore but only if you KNOW she cheated and lied about it... unless you can work things about, she (or you) won't do it again, and you completely trust each other... you probably shouldn't be together anymore... or at least take a break from each other
Will a spouse cheat once cheated on?
Probably not, although each person is unique. After one spouse is unfaithful, the marriage will either end in divorce, where the other person is free to date, or the couple will try to work things out. I don't know what the statistics are, but in any individual case, the innocent spouse's reaction is really up to him (or her).
How do you accept a cheating spouse if they cheated more than eight times with the same girl?
After the first time you found out is the time you should have sat down with your spouse and talked things out and let him know you are not putting up with his cheating. After eight times he feels quite free to do this to you over and over again. Kick this spouse to the curb if he will not go for marriage counseling.
What are the best and worst things that people said to you when they found out that your spouse was cheating on you?
Good: I'm sorry that you had to go through that or Well, now you know...never to go back to him/her Bad: Well, I can see why he/she cheated on you *smirk* *chuckle*
What are the best and worst things people said to you when you told them that your spouse was cheating on you?
Good: I'm sorry that you had to go through that or Well, now you know...never to go back to him/her Bad: Well, I can see why he/she cheated on you *smirk* *chuckle*
when your spouce has a friend that has taken things to far. how do you get the trust back without making them choice between the friend and spouce?
If the spouse was willing with the friends adances then they should not be alone together if the spouse told them no that should have earned trust already.
If a parent dies no will no proof of legal remarriage can the claiming spouse legally take proceeds from children when she has no children?
If there is no will, the laws of intestacy will apply. They are designed to protect the children and make sure things are done fairly. It would be a good idea for the children to consult legal help.
Do you feel responsible your spouse cheated on you?
Marital problems rarely are the fault of just one spouse, but the decision to cheat was that of the adulterer/adulteress alone. Admit your responsibility for your shortcomings, but don't let your spouse blame his/her betrayal on you. If you feel like the two of you can work through the difficulties and stay faithful to one another in the future, then try to work things out (counselors can be very helpful). Otherwise, you may need to consider separating.I will feel very angry
