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If you were on a boat in the center of the lake with your spouse and child and the boat tipped over and only you can swim who would you save first your spouse or your child?
A marraige should come before a child. Both can be replaced, but save the spouse. Hopefully the spouse can swim and the child can be saved, but I bet you were asking this one for fun. Now, if your mom were on board too...she can't be replaced so a psychologist might logically say that you should save her, replace the wife and kid. At least that is what my psychology professor once told my class. Answer You only say "spouse" but it may make a difference whether it is the husband or the wife who can swim. I cannot imagine a mother saving her husband and leaving her child to drown. It is also difficult to believe that she would not insist that her husband save the child first. Answer You're correct. The question is a test of individual understanding about the seriousness of marriage and how the commitment is between the husband and wife not extended family members, children or even friends. The love of a child is deep and precious. Of course our natural instinct on a message board is to say we would go for the child. But if we really weigh the seriousness of the scenario it will make you think about just how serious the institution of marrigae is: " If you were on a boat in the center of the lake with your spouse and child, and the boat tipped over and only you can swim who would you save first?" The above scenerio doesn't present us with alternatives, excuses or rationalizations. If you were in this life or death situation who would you honestly save first? Best wishes Answer Since the question is not "Which one would you save?" but "..who would you save first?" it implies that both individuals could be rescued. So one would use common sense (hopefully) rather than an emotional reaction. An adult would be less likely to panic and therefore could tread water longer and it is very likely that an adult being stronger could make it to the side of the boat and hold on, grab an oar, or any number of things Therefore using logic one would obviously rescue the child first. That aside, it would need to be a very forgiving (or selfish) woman who would stay with a man that allowed their child to drown. Answer You didn't mention the age of the child so, it's possible they are quite able to swim to the over-turned boat. Instinctively and if the child couldn't swim I would head for the child, get them on top of the boat and try to make it to my spouse. It's only human nature to go for the young and helpless and tell me a mother who wouldn't do this? I'm not a mother, but I'd do it for any child if that child were in the same boat as my spouse and I.
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Answer Custody is granted based on what is in the best interest of the child and not on financial status. This is the reason that non custodial …parent are equally responsible for the financial issues concerning the child's welfare.
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Stepparents are not responsible for their stepchildren. Your spouse is not responsible for your child(ren). However, the State may place liens on real and personal property,… including bank accounts, even though your spouse is a joint owner.
In general, (re)marriage should not increase or decrease one's child support obligation, regardless of the new spouse's income or the presence of stepchildren.
No, not in any state. Only the biological parents pay for their child.
yes sorta put it this way i am married to a convicted felon. I live in California and have no record i gained custody of his niece at birth thru fostercare and has had her for… almost 18mths. of course i was told no way but contactd lawyer and they said yes the way around it is u adopt the child he signs off on the child. social workers lawyers just have to draw up the papers. he will not have any responsiblity to the child but paper doesnt make him the father everyday daddy does good luck
This is difficult to answer because the main deciding factor is the judge in the case. If the spouse is a good parent (I realize many of us don't consider a cheating partn…er being a good parent though it has little impact if the child is protected properly), it is unlikely the judge will award sole custody to the faithful party. Also, keep in mind that in most jurisdictions you will need to file for divorce. Custody will be determined as part of the divorce proceeding and having an extramarital affair is generally not a reason for denying custody.
Your dad died and left a house no will only deeds you are the only child he had no spouse does this mean you are entitled to the house and do all mortgages in his name die with him?
Answer . The mortgages do not die with him. You are entitled to inherit the house, subject to the mortgages. . Open an estate and have the court appoint you as executor.… You can then deal with the bank on settling the mortgage, either by selling the property and paying off the mortgage, or setting up a new mortgage with the name of the inheritor. . Consult a probate attorney in your state for help in getting it settled.
I don't think theres an age long as they've got a lifevest and you keep hold of them...
My latest experience ( I am now in my fifties) with my narcissistic mother has been that she was accustomed to a fairly high level of attention from me which inevitably became… less frequent as I recently bonded with a new partner. I initially felt I should apologise to her for this, and kept on seeing her more often than I wanted to. On the last occasion I visited her she told me I was 'peculiar' for not wanting to share more details of my 'new' life with her. When I politely protested she claimed she hadn't said it, and then put her hands over her ears and shouted that I was always getting at her. Then began the campaign of getting other family members to ring me and tell me I was causing her to commit suicide (again?), that I was a terrible person and that I caused her many illnesses through stress. I arranged for a doctor to visit and when I spoke to him he confirmed she was very 'matter of fact' and was attention seeking. She constructed a fiction that I had not told her I was getting married but had told an aunt first ( in fact she didn't react much when I told her so perhaps she was so preoccupied with her own thoughts that she didn't really take it in - she often doesn't listen properly). She sent me several letters outlining my faults, mixed in with a sickly sentimentality around my fiance (whom she has not met yet - there are reasons) She forbad me to speak to my aunt as I 'caused her to have angina attacks' ( this is because we had had a lovely supportive talk together about my mothers foibles and helped each other to feel a bit better).She detailed what proportion of me was good and what bad, and announced that the bad part, though small, 'spoiled the rest'. She had a medical emergency phone contact centre she has ring me at 11.00 at night, saying I must ring her urgently. When I did (despite my leaving next morning at 4.30 am. to catch a plane), she said in her nastiest voice that it was a mistake and that there was nothing wrong, but then I 'didn't want to know now anyway, did I?' I have experienced my mother frequently ringing up my ex-husband when she was displeased with me and tearing me to shreds with him, and they both did this once in front of my son when I wasn't there. The worst of her bizarre and malicious actions was to sleep with an ex-boyfriend of mine when I was 20, a man she knew I was still deeply in love with. When their 'relationship' inevitably collapsed, she came round to my bedsit and burst into tears, expecting me to comfort her (and to be angry - she likes that too - anything to cast herself centre stage). You may see from this that like many children of narcissists, there is a huge back story of hurt. I would advise anyone in a similar position to get as far away from the parent as possible, especially if trying to establish a new relationship. If the parent is threatened with losing their grip on you, their intrusive rights and there source of interesting detail to share with others behind your back, you will be for it! I am determined not to let this nasty old woman spoil any more of my days with fruitless efforts to gain her approval which is always a hair's breadth away from being withdrawn. What they do when a new spouse comes along is what they have done to you all your life - try to make sure they don't lose their supply, and they are not afraid to use anything or anyone to undermine your autonomy. Don't leave it till you're 50+ !
Paying Child SupportA spouse regardless of gender is not legally obligated to support the biological children of the new spouse's previous marriages or relationships. But obvi…ously if the children live with the parent and stepparent it will be a shared commitment. The salary or assets of the "innocent spouse" are NOT subject to garnishment or in any way considered pertaining to the payment of an obligated spouse's child support. However, if the married couple share a joint bank account commingled funds in most states would be subject to levy for child support payments. Additionally, all marital assets of couples living in community property states are considered to be owned equally. Therefore, the spouse not owing the child support could end up "paying".
Boats flip over due to much excessive weight put onto one side of the boat, tipping it over.
A spouse having an affair is not usually something the judge takes into consideration when deciding which parent will get custody of the children.
Believe it or not, in some states yes. Adultery is still on the books as a crime in 22 states and if parents are convicted of a crime, they risk obtaining or maintaining custo…dy of their children. And even in states where it isn't a crime, the parents' lifestyles are taken into consideration when deciding where it would be in the best interests of the child to reside. The courts usually will award custody to the parent who can provide a more stable environment.
Can a spouse be granted full custody with no visitation just because the other spouse was charged with simple assault on her child only once?
Yes. I doubt that any judge of Family Court would buy the "only once" defense. All of the judges, social workers, etc. I have encountered stick to the "Past behavior is a tru…e indicator of future behavior" rule.
I've seen it happen frequently to fathers. The mother runs off. He hopes she'll come back, so he doesn't even file for child support. She comes back, he lets her see the… children. While in possession of them, she files against him.