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Is a marriage likely to work out when the husband cheated and they both are not going to counseling but he still wants to stay?
Jenn9027
In situations like theses there are many variables. From what your saying it could be tough, but it can work. One of the keys to have a healthy long lasting relationship is forgiveness. He cheated, does he deserve forgiveness, no, but Im sure glad God and others forgave me of things I didn't deserve to be forgiven of. 100% unconditional forgiveness is needed on the wife's part, even if he has repentance or not. Holding onto that bitterness is terrible for her mental and physical health. If the husband does have repentance, he wishes GENUINELY that he didn't do it, and she is willing to forgive him, not necessarily trust him, but FORGIVE, it can work. The couple need to evaluate there marriage, there love one for another, there commitment, they need to determine as one to make this work. The next step is setting up safe guards so that he does not cheat again. If its a lady at work, stop working there, I don't care if its 24$ an hour, the marriage is meant to be the #1 priority in a couples life. Often times these things start online on chat sites, or hooking up with an old flame on facebook. DROP the internet then, I know that sounds extreme, but like I said the relationship is worth it. They need to sit down and figure out how he is going to guard his heart. Things like this start in the mind. No evil thing was done before it was though out in most cases. This man needs to fix how he thinks, then how he acts will change. He needs to choose to not take the second look at the hot woman that walks by, not look at porn, ect. These will build up sensual habits that will keep pushing him more and more towards crossing the fence. Really counseling would be great, if they absolutely refuse there are great books on the market they can go through. Overall its only going to work if they both make it work. If one does and the other does, that does not mean there life is over, its sooo hard I know, but they need the comfort and reassurance that they can go on in life.
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∙ 14y ago- If the husband only cheated once and the couple learn good communication skills then it's possible they can have a happy marriage, but, it will take sometime for the wife to trust her husband again and he is going to have to earn it. Humans make mistakes; emotions can run high and if he has learned from this mistake then it shouldn't happen again. The wife should make it clear if she even gets a hint of him cheating again that will be truly the end of their marriage. Take an hour out each day and discuss anything and if either of you have problems then be open, calm and fair about it and listen to each other. No one said marriage was easy.
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Do you stay with your husband after he cheated and lied once and had intentions of doing it again but was caught?
If your husband has issues with infidelity, the only chance your marriage can survive is if you go to counseling and deal with it head on. Left alone, it will most likely happen again, especially if he thinks he can get away with it and/or you will tolerate it. Not only is infidelity a wrecker of trust in your relationship, but there are real dangers too, like spreading STDs. If he is disrespectful enough to cheat on you, I wouldn't trust him to use protection when he is with someone else.
Will your verbally emotionally and sometimes physically abusive husband ever change?
Sure, he's likely to get worse. Things won't get better unless you make it happen. Either leave him or make him go with you for marriage counseling. See where it goes from there.
What should you do when you find out your husband had an affair?
There is no doubt that finding out one's husband had an affair hurts, but, many people have had to go through this and their marriage survived. If your husband has never cheated before then he is worth giving another chance, but only if he agrees to see a marriage counselor and also learn tools so the two of you can communicate on a better level regarding how each of you feels. If your husband has cheated more than once it is not likely he will stop and either you stay and put up with his infidelity or you divorce him and move on towards the future that would give you the chance to possibly meet someone else that is better suited to you.
If you were a wife married and had an affair fling and had a child from that fling how likely will the marriage last if the wife is remorseful and seeking counseling with husband and herself?
It would be impossible for anyone to answer that question because there are so many factors involved, including your husband's willingness and ability to forgive and put it behind him. But if you're involved in counseling with your husband, that is a wonderful step and hopefully one that will help with reconciliation and the issues that led you to become unfaithful in the first place. Good luck!
Can a Brazilian wife divorce an American husband from Brazil?
Most likely depends on where the marriage occurred.
What do you do when a woman who could likely be vindictive and seek revenge thinks her husband now ex-husband cheated with you and she doesn't believe you?
Her husband has probably cheated on her more than once and any woman who is loyal to their husband and finds out they have cheated is extremely hurt and certainly will become angry, but few seek revenge. If you feel threatened by her and you know her ex then the three of you should meet and you tell her right to her face you had nothing to do with him; get up and tell the two of them to grow up and he should tell her the truth and then walk away (do this in a public place.)
Should you ignore your husband after he cheated and had an affair?
To be honest, if it was the first one, you should give him another chance, and if it doesn't work out again, then just ditch him. Also if the affair happened early out in the marriage (1-5 Years of being Married/Together) then I personally think that he would most likely do it again.
Is it possible that your ex abusive husband to change when he remarried and shows stable signs of not being abusive to his second wife?
Possible, but not likely for him to change on his own without serious counseling.
How can you believe your husband when he says his affair is over?
....Well assume that they are , pay close attention to your husband what he does, the explanations he gives, his routines, etc. That way you might be able to spot any odd things and verify the mistress's statement. If you are absolutely sure they are still having an affair, perhaps you should hire a private detective just to confirm or go ahead and move on with your life and make a decision that suits you.
Can a husband who cheated be faithful to his other woman?
If they are legally divorced? Yes he is free to marry someone else. If you are speaking in a religious context, depends on the religion, Christianity teaches that if a husband/wife commits adultery that they are not allowed to marry again (Matthew 19: 3-11).
If your boyfriend cheated on you is there a chance that he will do it again?
It is more likely than not.
If all you want is to move on and start fresh why can the husband not respect your decision?
Because you as his wife decide you want to move on (no matter what your marriage problems were) is not all about you, but your husband most likely still loves you and does not want to see you leave. If a husband does not abuse his wife verbally or physically; is hard working and a fairly good father, but it is not enough for the wife then it is confusing for the husband to know what he did wrong. At least give him an explanation if he was a fairly good husband. Too often in this modern age couples give up far too easy on their marriage. Marriage and old age are not for sissies.
