Is it abuse or immaturity if your wife justified calling you a thief to a psychologist by relating 2 minor incidents that occured 24 and 25 years earlier?

Answer 1

If she's reaching that far to come up with negative stuff against you, let it drop. It sounds like she's desperate to justify her position. As for whether it's abuse, no. You aren't bleeding, no broken bones and if you've gone to a counselor for stuff it sounds like there is already plenty of conflict. If we start allowing that kind of behavior to be considered "abuse", then we diminish the outrage of REAL abuse.

The simple fact is, we're all called names, accused of things that didn't happen and generally "abused" verbally. But it's not really abuse. It's just a cry for attention.