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What do men get out of cheating on their lovers?
- It's definitely an ego boost. My current partner was a terrible sleeze in the beginning when we first started dating. Flirted with girls and never owned up to it. I hired a P.I. and he was so nervous when I confessed I had him followed. It's only now 3 years later that he has started to grow up (38 years of age). I left him 4 times and silly me gave him the benefit of the doubt every time as I always try to see the best in everyone. Unfortunately now I hold less repsect for him because of how he has made me feel and the insecurity that has plagued me due to his flirting and lack of respect he has shown me. I don't feel I have deserved it and not blowing my own horn but I think I am a relatively attractive woman and a mother of two. I don't understand what makes men think they can do this. When I would question him he would say "I cant help if they look at me and give me the attention". I would tell him he was weak if he felt he had to blame it on the female. He thought it was a great ego boost but would never admit it and them blame the girl. A real man wouldn't treat a woman like that. Are there any real men around that treat women with repect anymore? I have a bad taste in my mouth now and don't think I could trust anyone...... A question that both genders have pondered since the begining of time. And the answer is...who knows? Maybe it's just an ego booster. A sign of insecurity, maybe? Maybe they are just jerks. Maybe, maybe, maybe... If you ever find the one and only answer, please share it with me. I have a feeling it will be as elusive as the Holy Grail. Which might be how some men see their quest (lust?) for another also. usually they are insecure and this makes them feel better about themselves, also something to ponder is...it really as small as she says it is..most men who cheat have major insecurites and look at woman as a form of supply not as a real human with equality... it's purely ego... a man is a man if he can carry more than one woman on his shoulder. . Thrills. Sense of superiority. Living up to their "macho" ideal. Keeping their options open. Debasing two women or more who are in competition with one another and in a one-down position in relation to the King of Kings. Control. Distancing. Never having to stand or fall by their merits as honest, open, vulnerable and genuine individuals -- so I'd guess that it's an ego saving strategy for the spineless. It's important to remember that not all men are cheaters. I've been married for a decade and my wife has cheated on me and I've never cheated on her. Honestly between the two of us, I'm much more healthy, clean cut, good looking person. I'm 6'4" 200 lbs and I get hit on a lot. I've never strayed even when she cheated on me, I never once looked the other way. the point I'm getting at is find a man who will honor and love you. If you're a good person chances are you'll find what you are looking for. Don't waste time on someone who doesn't value you and your feelings.
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I have an Indian boyfriend and in my experience he is a better lover than british.. i can't speak for everyone of course, but i see all these couples and it's in Indian cultur…e to stick with one person for life and .. they're really erotic lovers, they know how to have a laugh if something doesn't go quite as planned whereas I've noticed british get ashamed and embaressed, also they know how to hit the right spots and are not afraid to experiment which i think is what we british hold back on. Also remember they wrote the karma sutra ;) hehe so they wrote the book of lurrrrrve. haha
Cheating This issue is best looked at through the lens of evolutionary psychology . Although it provides a relatively simple explanation to a complex behavior, it seems to …be consistent throughout the animal kingdom with few exceptions. Evolutionary psychology takes an observed behavior and works backwards to explain the behavior based on the ultimate causes: the desire to propagate one's genes. Thus, many behaviors (especially in mating) can be tied right back to the primal need to pass on one's genes to the next generation. It is easy to see why mating behaviors should differ between men and women based on the ability of a man to pass on his genes verses the ability of a woman. If a woman became pregnant at every possible opportunity between puberty and menopause, she might have at most 30 children (although a Russian woman gave birth to a record 69 children; about half of them were twins). In contrast, a male could father multiple children in a single day -- he could potentially have tens of thousands of children if every possible opportunity was taken. Going back to evolution, both men and women want to have offspring that survive to pass on their genes. Statistically, the more children an individual has, the more likely one of the offspring will survive to sexual maturity, which is the main goal. Just by this logic, it would be more advantageous ( evolutionarily speaking ) for a male to seek other relationships while a female is pregnant. A man will be more successful in passing on his genes if he takes on every opportunity to do so. This is essentially the basis behind polygamous relationships. Another consequence of the differences in the ability of men and women to have children is female's selectiveness in choosing a mate. A woman only has at most about 30 children to give birth to; therefore, the other half of her child's genetic code (determined by the father) needs to be desirable. Now, with that said, it doesn't justify "cheating" behavior, especially at the human level where complex social interactions are at work. However, it is worth noting that cheating is to a certain extent hardwired into the male psyche. Comments from Answers.com contributors Men cheat for all different reasons. But the one thing they all have in common is that they do not believe in the sanctity of marriage, keeping promises or being fair to the person they are married to. They also have another thing in common. They are unable to make sure they marry the right person and make a relationship work. They look for easy, simple solutions to boredom. I have been a relationship expert and life coach for many years. I have seen every angle there is on marriage, love and relationships. Men always make excuses for why they cheat, but the truth is that they are selfish and immature. Men cheat for a number of reasons... . they may be insecure . they may not know what a good thing when they have it . they may not like the person their with . the other person may give the man more then what their wife/girlfriend gives . the man may very will need more then one partner . sex with the wife/girlfriend is not good . their wife/girlfriend may have cheated on them . their wife/girlfriend may not treat the man how he wants to be treated . cheat may be all he has even seen for his mom or dad . he is unhappy . you don't spend enough time together There's a simple reason why men cheat: boredom, and not happy withthe women they are with.
I was dating a man that was married. He swore to me on more than one occasion that although he was married, he and his wife lived separate lives and on the verge of divo…rce. I found out several weeks and a few "I love yous" later that he was lying. I saw several pictures of him and his wife on their website and on Facebook, together, not living separate lives. I was horrified and heartbroken because the only way I could justify seeing him was because I thought they were living separate lives. I was angry and eventually told his wife. I found her profile on Facebook and sent her an e-mail. I then mailed a packet of chat sessions to her so he couldn't lie his way out of it. I don't think she cared he was cheating. They aren't divorced but she didn't want to hear what he had been doing. I felt even worse after I told her but I thought if this happened to me I would want to know. He said I had rubbed her face in the details of the relationship. Although I knew it was cruel to send her so many explicit and intimate conversations I wanted her to have peace of mind and know who she is married to.
In my experience, black men have a slight edge over white men for a couple of reasons. I must specify ethnicity in this matter. It helps if coming from a black majority …country. I find the level of fitness is higher in the black men I've met, which makes them more visually appealing. Also, a fit person generally has better circulation, which might explain why many women feel black men are better endowed, even though statistics tend to not confirm that. The sad fact is that if a man is a couch potato, chances are he has poor circulation which means the erection will be nothing to write home about!!! Also, black men from the Caribbean for example were brought/educated up in a world of dance where hip action is a major feature, this hip musculature development is definitely noticeable in bed... On the down side, there is a very high rate of single black mothers, which means also there's a very high rate of deadbeat black dads. After coffee breath and smoker, deadbeat dad would have to be the biggest turnoff, and hence efface any loving talent the guy has...
-The question your asking can have two meanings. As in literally, HOW do men Cheat (What steps do they take, how do they perform? etc.) The other one can mean, ugh! How DO the…y CHEAT? -When people cheat, it's more flattery and lust that clouds their brains. It's the chase that's exciting, getting a feel of another lips. It's extremely taboo & that makes it that much more fun to them. -There can also be insecurity issues that they are having with themselves or from their spouse. Constant voices in their heads telling them that their other is cheating, so go get revenge. Which brings along all their own issues falling under the umbrella of commitment. -Some people and it goes for men & women, are just addicted to sex. Maybe they can't get the hot wild sex they need from their partner, so they go find someone who's willing. If they keep coming back to their other, they get the love making that fills the other void they long for.
becase they want sex and if they say that there married there going to be kicked in the nuts by there lovers
I have a jamaican boyfriend, who's nice but cheats and lies a lot. With them, you're number 1, but they'll have others on the side, but none will come before you, and you're t…he only person they spend money on. They also get really jealous, but are amazing in bed.
They are very good lovers when they want to be! Unfortunately, they get lazy.
Nationality does not effect an individuals ability to be a good lover. It is down to the individuals own personality.
you cant judge a dude, or chick, as a good loveer, or bad, jus by their thingy.. zodiac sign, i think its called lol it dnt depend on the month they were born in. depends on w…hat they know, what they have, sometimes tha size matters haha and howw they work ittt.. :P
This depends on your definition of a "good lover." I dated a Pisces man who was five years younger than me for about four months. He was handsome and the sex was really good. …He would tell me that he wanted to please me while we were having sex. The problem was that sex was the only common ground we had. I am a Libra female and rather evolved: meaning that a good lover, for me, is one who knows how to wine and dine and caress and makes a great attempt at being the best man I have ever experienced. This guy was aloof when I thought he should be more considerate and he did not take care of himself well. Sometimes he would not shave and would not apply lotion to his skin, especially his terribly dry feet. Sometimes, he would forget to wear deodorant and shower. Furthermore, he NEVER wore cologne and smelled like whatever his mother washed his clothes in. So, to answer the question, from my experience, Pisces men are good at having sex but not necessarily good "Lovers."
Nature wired males of the animal kingdom to procreate. But we have been programed with the lofty allusion that human being are not animals. We try to link sex to love, because… it looks and sounds good to our sense of being civilize.
It's not your place to tell her. It's his. She may already know or suspect. But chooses to ignore it. Happens more often than not. And she will not blame him... she will blam…e you. It is easier to be angry at you.. then it is to face the problems in the marriage that made him cheat. She may tighten the reigns on him, but eventually, they will go back to status quo. And he will do it again with someone else. Rinse and Repeat.
No size has nothing to do with technique or experience. i would think the reverse is true. They want you to be grateful & do all the work. Since this is a public forum, you wi…ll get better answers and people will take you more seriously if you avoid slang terms for body parts.
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Answer woman cheat must? A cheating S.O.B.!!! Both parties are cheaters and lame as human beings. If one is so unhappy in a relationship (even if you aren't married) then mat…ure people would simply split-up. Cheaters usually like to have their cake and eat it to. I would also use the term "man" lightly in this case because he hasn't earned it if he cheats! Same goes for a woman. Answer Home wrecker Answer Out of touch. Why anyone would want to be sloppy seconds or a backup crutch then they need some self esteem classes. I do know that some people prefer it this way so they are "no strings attached" but that rarely remains that way, because soon enough it will come out and then the strings tighten! For your answer, lover is one term. Others include boy toy, romeo, go to man, among others that I wont repeat.
They miss scheduled/expected phone call or voice chats regularly.