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What do men get out of cheating on their lovers?
- It's definitely an ego boost. My current partner was a terrible sleeze in the beginning when we first started dating. Flirted with girls and never owned up to it. I hired a P.I. and he was so nervous when I confessed I had him followed. It's only now 3 years later that he has started to grow up (38 years of age). I left him 4 times and silly me gave him the benefit of the doubt every time as I always try to see the best in everyone. Unfortunately now I hold less repsect for him because of how he has made me feel and the insecurity that has plagued me due to his flirting and lack of respect he has shown me. I don't feel I have deserved it and not blowing my own horn but I think I am a relatively attractive woman and a mother of two. I don't understand what makes men think they can do this. When I would question him he would say "I cant help if they look at me and give me the attention". I would tell him he was weak if he felt he had to blame it on the female. He thought it was a great ego boost but would never admit it and them blame the girl. A real man wouldn't treat a woman like that. Are there any real men around that treat women with repect anymore? I have a bad taste in my mouth now and don't think I could trust anyone...... A question that both genders have pondered since the begining of time. And the answer is...who knows? Maybe it's just an ego booster. A sign of insecurity, maybe? Maybe they are just jerks. Maybe, maybe, maybe... If you ever find the one and only answer, please share it with me. I have a feeling it will be as elusive as the Holy Grail. Which might be how some men see their quest (lust?) for another also. usually they are insecure and this makes them feel better about themselves, also something to ponder is...it really as small as she says it is..most men who cheat have major insecurites and look at woman as a form of supply not as a real human with equality... it's purely ego... a man is a man if he can carry more than one woman on his shoulder. . Thrills. Sense of superiority. Living up to their "macho" ideal. Keeping their options open. Debasing two women or more who are in competition with one another and in a one-down position in relation to the King of Kings. Control. Distancing. Never having to stand or fall by their merits as honest, open, vulnerable and genuine individuals -- so I'd guess that it's an ego saving strategy for the spineless. It's important to remember that not all men are cheaters. I've been married for a decade and my wife has cheated on me and I've never cheated on her. Honestly between the two of us, I'm much more healthy, clean cut, good looking person. I'm 6'4" 200 lbs and I get hit on a lot. I've never strayed even when she cheated on me, I never once looked the other way. the point I'm getting at is find a man who will honor and love you. If you're a good person chances are you'll find what you are looking for. Don't waste time on someone who doesn't value you and your feelings.
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Answer You can hire a detective for weekends only, but they don't come cheap. I tried it with my first husband and didn't get much of a report back so I became suspicious. T…he detective was slacking on the job and taking my money. My sister-in-law and I banned together (she thought her husband was cheating on her ... my husband and her husband were brothers) so we borrowed a friends car and we followed them! We caught both our husbands in a bar with not just one girl on each of their arms, but two girls a piece. There my sister-in-law and I were working our butts off, keeping the house clean, etc., and these two loafers were having the time of their life with other women. That was it for the both of us, and we both got separations and then divorces. Oddly enough both of these guys begged us to come back, but we kept going and never looked back and I'm so glad neither of us did. We have both since met and married wonderful men and ones we can trust. If your lover is living with you, then check out his phone #'s on his cell when he's not around, and check his wallet. Low thing to do, but hey, he's being a darn sight lower than you. You can also check out credit cards to see if there are any entries for expensive dinners, hotel or motel bills. If you aren't living together then get a good friend to help you follow him especially on the weekend.
no, I don't have a lover
In my experience, black men have a slight edge over white men for a couple of reasons. I must specify ethnicity in this matter. It helps if coming from a black majority …country. I find the level of fitness is higher in the black men I've met, which makes them more visually appealing. Also, a fit person generally has better circulation, which might explain why many women feel black men are better endowed, even though statistics tend to not confirm that. The sad fact is that if a man is a couch potato, chances are he has poor circulation which means the erection will be nothing to write home about!!! Also, black men from the Caribbean for example were brought/educated up in a world of dance where hip action is a major feature, this hip musculature development is definitely noticeable in bed... On the down side, there is a very high rate of single black mothers, which means also there's a very high rate of deadbeat black dads. After coffee breath and smoker, deadbeat dad would have to be the biggest turnoff, and hence efface any loving talent the guy has...
If all black men were better lovers, then that would mean there is some sort of gene in their body that makes them satisfy other women more efficiently. Seeing as that i…s impossible, the answer is no, because every man is different.
They are very good lovers when they want to be! Unfortunately, they get lazy.
Do you know the reason why some women look for another companionship? For married woman from the time she marry her husband she will be this perfect wife doing all the respons…ibilities as a wife do to make her husband happy and satisfied. For a while their life will be perfect, until the husband becomes comfortable in his life and romance stop. So if you think you can trust this woman, don't you think its only fair if you talk to her and tell her how you feel. No head games just be blunt..
cause you cant get the job done right
Very Simple...........You are a cheat!
This is a VERY COMMON behavior with both sexes. It indicates that there still are feelings and/or unresolved issues between the 2 of them. That is a clear sign that you need… to end to relationship, that you are not nearly as special to this person as the "ex" is.
They miss scheduled/expected phone call or voice chats regularly.
but of course we are! we are very good cooks as well.
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you cant judge a dude, or chick, as a good loveer, or bad, jus by their thingy.. zodiac sign, i think its called lol it dnt depend on the month they were born in. depends on w…hat they know, what they have, sometimes tha size matters haha and howw they work ittt.. :P
You find him/her in bed with another person.
I have a jamaican boyfriend, who's nice but cheats and lies a lot. With them, you're number 1, but they'll have others on the side, but none will come before you, and you're… the only person they spend money on. They also get really jealous, but are amazing in bed.
It's not your place to tell her. It's his. She may already know or suspect. But chooses to ignore it. Happens more often than not. And she will not blame him... she will blam…e you. It is easier to be angry at you.. then it is to face the problems in the marriage that made him cheat. She may tighten the reigns on him, but eventually, they will go back to status quo. And he will do it again with someone else. Rinse and Repeat.