What do you do if you have proof that your boyfriend is cheating but it would be turned against you if you confronted him because you've been reading his email?

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I caught my husband cheating because he was stupid enough to leave his "secret" e-mail account open .he didn't sign out, and I found it on the computer when I came home a 3 in the morning. The first thing I did was to print a copy of all messages he had sent to her and her to him. I really scanned the e-mail account thouroughly- sent mail, old mail, deleted mail, and contact list. She was the only contact listed. Then I went in and asked him a question( something he had mentioned in the e-mail) that wasn't too obvious. Example: he had went on a fire call at a certain time- he wrote that in his e-mail) I went in and asked him if he had a fire call(casually) and he responded that he had.(this verified that he did in fact write the e-mail) Then I asked him who was XXXX(she signed her name on her response) He immediately sat up and was trying to SWEETLY defend himself-and of course deny that he had written a e-mail-but since I had the copy-I showed it to him.(I told him that he had a message on the computer that had came up as he had forgotten to sign off of his e-mail)I didn't charge full throttle ahead at that point, but I did check on other things- cell phone bills(the real cincher-numerous calls for long time amounts) and other factors. When I had gathered all the stuff I needed for proof- I slammed him with it- He admitted he was guilty, begged for my forgiveness, and pleaded to save the marriage-we are now going through marriage counciling.The only upside to this matter is that it had only just started a few months before- so I caught him before it had a chance to really get indepth. Hope this helps.Good Luck.