What do you do when you are a 14 year old boy and you like a 30 year old woman and she acts real nice to you and lets you hug her a lot how can you tell if she likes you?

Answer 1

It is perfectly normal for young boys in your age group to find an older woman attractive or be infatuated with her. It is part of growing up. You are going through puberty and your hormones are raging, but that does not mean you should follow through with what you may be misinterpreting.

Do not ever assume that just because someone is nice to you it means that they want more than friendship. However, if this lady is doing more than just being nice you really need to let your parents or a trusted relative know. If the hugs are more than what you would get from a relative or a trusted family friend then it is wrong and you should let someone know about it.

It is not nasty or wrong that you like this lady, it is what you do with your feelings and what actions you do that will define the kind of man you will grow up to be. I would advise you to refocus your interests on someone in your age group. There will be time later to be interested in someone older than you, when you are an adult able to handle an adult relationship. In no way shape or form, should a 30-year-old woman ever show any sexual or intimate feelings for a 14-year-old boy. If she is, she needs to be turned in and locked up. If my son ever told me that he had feelings for a 30-year-old woman, I would ask 2 questions: Why? and What makes him think she may feel the same? Absolutely no adult should ever be intimate with a minor.