What should you do if your pretty girlfriend is paranoid about looking old?

Answer 1

Well, don't entertain her every complaint anymore, that just adds to her paranoia. I would get her some books on older women that have aged gracefully and let her be. If it starts to interfer with your relationship, if it hasn't already, let her know that this cannot consume her anymore. That you find her pretty and she has nothing to worry about. I would tell her also that in todays world there are issue's bigger then her vainness that she can be using her energy on to help cure... I know it may sound cold but she is seeking attention of a child and is being immature.

• As a 36 yr old woman, I know that I don't look 18 anymore. I know that I'm not "old", but there's definitely a little insecurity there. However, I personally have developed many of my own coping mechanisms to not let the insecurity get the best of me, and many guys are surprised when we finally have the conversation. What I would suggest is a little introspection - if you're gawking at barely-legal women in an obvious way, it's hard to tell us that you don't value that youthful appearance that we simply cannot maintain as we all age :) If, however, you point out more mature ladies you find attractive, and we have conversations about attractiveness that goes beyond flesh, it's easier to see that you think with your head and not just the "little man". If you think with your head, we know logically that you still love us and think we're beautiful even though we're aging and will never, ever ever look 18 again!