Dating after Divorce

Dating after divorce is not the same as it was before the first marriage. Divorced men and women tend to be wiser before getting into another relationship. Still, dating is the best way to get to know a future partner.

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Dating after Divorce
Divorce

How do you get past hating the man you are married to when so much has gone wrong?

If you have children it may be better for them that you two divorce as amicably as possible, rather than be in an unhappy home. Even if you are going to counseling, if you are not happy in this marriage, in the long run the situation will not improve.

The liberated opinion: "get a divorce." You ever wonder why this country is so messed up?

Work on the problems. Work at it ... don't give up!

Stop it right now. Stop thinking about the past. You have a future. Everyday is a new day to start fresh and new. You need to start thinking about the positive versus the negative. It is so easy to hate and dewell in the neg. You have to make the best of what you have. Change can start with you. You just have to work at it. Start loving you and then loving your partner. Everybody goes through thing in their life good and bad it up to us to make life wonderful. Even people we love dearly hurt us sometime, but we have to forgive and move on. Try it and you will see.

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Is the first relationship with a man after his divorce doomed to be just a rebound?

  • It depends if the divorced person just got divorced, feels lonely and is wanting a relationship too quickly. When people get divorced (I went through it) they should take time out for themselves to look back at what went wrong in their former marriage, learn from it and grow, then work on your own strengths and weakness'.Not all first relationships are doomed after a divorce. The percentage is low, but there are some people that either know someone they love while they were still married, or, they truly have found someone that loves and respects them. Take it slow and easy. If you are having to ask this question of yourself then you aren't comfortable in the situation you are in or you're second-guessing yourself.
  • Not necessarily, but as the new person in his life you have to look out for you and be on your guard for any remissive behavior on his part. If he constantly brings up the ex, he may still have feelings, if he is bitter, then you may feel that you have to prove him wrong, which isn't your job to make him feel better about his ex, or other women. Just be yourself, have fun and don't invest too much too quickly.
  • In any relationship, the closeness of the two can never be greater than the awareness of each individual of themselves plus their shared selves. How can WE know what we want and where we are going - if "I" don't know what I want and where I'm going; same for the partner. Only as each person is self-realized and shares it, is there a possibility then of the two selves (people) forming and sharing a mutual today and future. So ask yourself the question: Is the person I'm encountering newly from divorce, had enough time to learn themselves to engage themselves well much less another.
  • From personal experience you should never be the first person to date a freshly divorced person. Let someone else do it, monitor the situation and think long and hard about your life decisions.
  • Not all the time. It depends on the situation of that divorced man you are now dating. Once you enter into that relationship then you must be ready for any consequences.
  • I agree with everyone on this, I have had a recent personal experience with this. He was in the middle of the divorce, he had moved out, however he was just not with it at all. He was a shell of his former self at the time. He and I did have great times, however he was not ready for all of it nor even trying to throw himself into something and hurting me in the process. There are a lot of complicated emotions involed with that type of situation, and they may not know how to deal, or may feel very over whelmed. It is best to give them time to figure them selves out first, because at that time in their lives they need to redifine them selvs as an individual and no longer he/she in a marriage.
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Does wearing a ring on your middle finger of your right hand mean you are single?

In Western countries yes it means the person is single. It could be a parent or relative or the person bought the ring themselves and it's for show so it goes on the middle finger or sometimes people wear 'pinkie rings' on their little finger. However,some cultures such as European cultures can wear a wedding ring (generally on the right hand) on any finger.

Many people don't wear rings when they are married. Example: My husband doesn't have a wedding band because of the type of work he does. He absolutely detests rings anyway and the only jewelry he'll wear is his watch. We have been married 35 years and not once has he cheated on me. Some women may not wear their wedding rings all the time (I don't) if I'm gardening or have my hands in water while scouring and cleaning. I may even forget to put it on when I go out.

A ring only means a symbol of being married so there has to be a lot of trust in a relationship. People CAN take rings off if they feel the need to cheat.

Currently, a black ring on the right middle finger is an unofficial signal that one is asexual.

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Why does he run away when you tell the truth?

Answer Sadly some people especially men are afraid of the truth, they don't know how to answer questions that involve the truth about anything so in a lot of cases they run away, refusing to get involved in anything that will look like they are cornered. Not all men are like this but some are. Any man who has good communicaiton skills will never run away, but he will answer your questions because he knows how to communicate. Good luck

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How do you date seriously without involving your 6-year-old child too much so she does not get hurt?

You just don't bring your dates around her until they are "worth" getting to meet her. Then when it gets serious enough you bring her on some of your dates. Listen to her and be sure she is OK with it all. She will be there forever, your date may not be.

At first see the person when your child is not with you. Kids attach very easily, and they will be hurt if things don't work out. After you have spent some time and realize this person is worthy of you and your child's time, then introduce your child gradually to the person. Go have lunch at the park. Go bowling together. Go to a movie. Allow opportunities for the relationship to develop naturally with your child.

Don't sleep with your dates, and try not to bring them home unless you're very serious. Even then, don't sleep together until you get married, or you can make the situation worse.

The Two key parts of this decision that I can think of is Sex with your partner, (Very very crucial in the long run) Avoid until you are more than sure of yourself

And I can not stress enough how important it is to listen to your child. You, better than anyone in this world knows what your daughter is trying to say in relationship to what she is accually saying. Use this to your advantage, watch her actions and reactions to your partner once you bring him/her into your child's life. Don't pry, but let her know you care about what she thinks about your partner. Terry J.

Date him or her for about a month if everything goes well, involve your child in your relationship.

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How do you find a compatible mate?

Answer When searching for a compatible mate you should know who you are looking for. What kind of things do you like to do and does this person like the same things as you? Do you both have the same goals and does he treat you with respect? It's all about getting to know a person, their wants and needs and this is done through good communication. When you have established that communication keep it handy as in relationships good communication is the key to success. Two people can have the greatest sex in the world, but if when they leave the bedroom they have nothing in common or can't talk to each other, their relationship is doomed. Good luck,

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What do you do when he says you love him more than he loves you?

You need to move on! Stop wasting your time with someone who will probably never commit to you and find the person who will love you in the same way you love him. It really is not love if you love him more than he loves you. Perhaps is he bashful....Does he fish? I bet he really loves his fly rod. Ask him. He'll understand. Good luck. You are so much better than this.

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What can you do to get ex wife to stop harassing you?

First, you should gather some evidence of her harassment such as printed and dated copies of emails, text messages and recordings of phone messages such as voicemails. Do not respond in any way that could be embarrassing for you in the event that you need to submit your evidence to a court at some future date. If you must respond, stay calm, polite, to the point and businesslike in your own emails, text messages and voicemails. If she is hanging around your home take photos and file a police complaint/report. Once you have gathered some hard evidence keep it together in a safe place.

Next, unless you must communicate with her, for example- over children, then do not respond to her calls or messages, just keep records of them. Avoid any confrontations. If she shows up where you happen to be then leave quietly without getting into any conversations or arguments. She may be trying to maintain a relationship with you even through her negative behavior if that's her only option.

If she doesn't stop then advise her that you have documented her harassment and unless she leaves you alone you will request a restraining order. If she continues then do it.

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What do you call a man who has never been married?

A bachelor, or a single man

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How can you communicate better with your girlfriend?

Communicate through your caring touch when she needs your love, caring n affection. Give her a touch with full love n caring everytime u leave her after meeting her. I am sure this would definitely communicate her ur felling that how much she means to u and how much u care her n look for her. == == == == You can do a lot of things, and one thing is to NOT SAY YOUR OPINION! If she says one thing, you disagree, you go to her opinion! Admit that you're wrong; it makes them feel like they're right. Then they like you more because of that. WRONG WRONG WRONG. Tell her your opinions, TALK TO HER, find out what she likes and what she thinks about things, and share those things about you with her. Don't turn it into an arguement, accept her thoughts and opinions as her own and ask her to return the favor. Don't judge her for being her, and ask that she not judge you for being you. Be open, honest, and understanding. She'll love it, unless she's completely shallow and/or brainless. Never just agree with what she says to make yourself seem like her perfect match. It'll just blow up in your face later. I totally agree. It would work out better for you because by communicating honestly to her, you'll know if the both of you have something worth keeping and cherishing. Communication (TRUE COMMUNICATION) is the perfect thread that keeps a relationship together. Be yourself and you will not regret it. Always be kind and take your time. If you have something difficult to talk about, do as the married folk do. You announce your concern and ask for the other person to set a time to discuss it. Then you agree on a good time when you are both relaxed and then you have a good talk about the issue. Talk about how you feel about the issue in terms of yourself; not being accusatory. When you both agree on a solution and can both live with it, that is when it is solved. (this has to be a genuine issue; not one of accusation and/or control)

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Christianity

How can I find a Christian life partner?

  • If you already belong to a church then you may find someone there that attracts your attention and, of course is either single, divorced or their spouse has passed on. Also being active in the community is a way of meeting new people. A wise choice for you is not to narrow down someone as being Christian, but find a nice and loving person and during dating you will find if they are a Christian or they will become one. However, just because someone is not a devout Christian and still has faith in God should be good enough for you. God meant people to enjoy their lives; be active by being kind; loyal and loving to each other and to others that cross their path in life. Don't make the mistake of having tunnel vision regarding a Christian life partner because you could miss out on a wonderful person.
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How can a single woman be positive a man is not bi-sexual or gay or a swinger?

If he is gay, he will likely not be interested in you. If he is a swinger, he will ikely try to get you involved. The most important thing is to get the know him and trust the feeling you have about whether he is trust worthy. This is the most important consideration in a relationship and should not be taken lightly if you are making an emotional investment. If you have doubts, you are likely right. I have a private detective friend who does relationships who I ask "How many of the people you check out are cheating?" His answer: "All of them, trust you feelings". Go with your instinct, trust yourself. You could just ask but he may lie. Talk to his friends , family, his ex maybe? But this would only apply if your instincts have been good in the past. If he has healthy sexual urges, then he is probably not a sexual deviant. Just talk to him about it. You just need to be open and honest with each other. You cant control your feelings or your sexual preferences in life, nobody chooses to be gay, straight or bisexual. So just talk with him sometime and be open about your thoughs (not judgemental), he needs to be comfortable and feel like you arent going to judge him. Just leaving him will not answer anything, Everyone has a freaky side to them.... Just make it comfortable...

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How do you know if he wants to marry me?

Generally both people in the relationship will discuss their hopes and dreams and part of it should included each of you in each other's lives. Men can often be gun shy regarding marriage. COMMUNICATION is the most important word in any one's life! This means you have to sit down with your mate and discuss the future with them. If you are very young then it would stand to reason that getting married at such a young age may not be such a good idea, but if you are in your 20's plus and have been going together for a time then marriage should be one of the topics. Have that talk with your partner. Don't get pushy or aggressive over it and say something like, 'Where do you see ourselves in the future?' Of course there is no doubt the comeback from him will be 'what do you mean.' Your answer should be blunt by saying, 'Well, you go with a person for a length of time so either you love them enough to at least get engaged and eventually make plans to get married, or you move on.' That will shake him up!

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How do you get your mate to help you with buying grocery when he comes to visit on the weekends without him taking it the wrong way?

Why isn't this grown man offering with out having you to ask. If he takes it the wrong way then tell him when he comes on the weekend the only thing you'll be making for mealtime, is reservations, and he's paying. Food costs money and the polite, mature, respectful thing to do should be and should have been is for him to chip in...enough said........

  • Your situation is what it is, and that's what you have to work from. Perhaps be direct, but try to keep your face, body and voice relaxed when you do it (no hard edge if you can help it) - say "hey, I love seeing you on the weekends but I'm a bit strapped for cash. Would it be okay if we alternated food costs every weekend?". The key is to be relaxed and non-confrontive with your body language, so he can hear the words and not just the attitude.
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Can being too nice push her away?

can being too nice push her away?

dude, youre serious? treat her like crap and find out then. youll probably get slapped and dumped. girls like guys to treat her nice. it makes us feel good and loved. now, if youre girl is into bad boys and youre not....think about it: would she have gone out with me if i wasnt her type? if you've turned from nice to scary nice since you've been together...yea that just may freak her out. this advice is if your dating the girl.

if youre still in the process of wining her over: shed probably think your a good guy and wouldn't say no to a date. if youre girl is into bad boys and your not one... here are youre choices. its up to you. but if your being extra nice then you usually are to this girl... and she falls for the really-nice you and not the just average-nice you...shed probably dump you so be yourself. btw, no being too nice wont push her away as long as its the real you...otherwise it just doesnt work. this coming from a GIRL !!

a) shes not your type nor you hers. move on !!

b) become a bad boy over night and loose your dignity

c) keep doing what youre doing and try to win her over by being youre nice self

best of luck,

Michelle

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Should you ask someone out in front of other people?

Only if you are absolutly sure they will say yes. But mostly that should be done in private, if you ask someone out in front of other people and that person would have normally said no but says yes with other people watching as to not hurt your feelings it wouldn't be a very good date and you probably would never get a second chance. If they say no with other people watching it could a big blow to your self confidence and could subject you to being the object of a few jokes by friends. If they say no in private then no one will overhear the rejection and if you hang out with that person in the same circle of friends then possibly the door might be left open a little bit for a date later on after you get to know each other better.

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If a woman gets divorced and takes the four kids and she is very attractive and quite young will guys date her?

AbsolutelyI'm crazy about a woman with three young children. When I first met her, I was reluctant to become involved, because of the young ages of the children; 4, 7, & 8. However, the better I got to know her (we were friends for 4 months) the more I realized that if I wanted to be with her, I had to be with the kids also. It's complicated, because I also have three children, and we all live in the same town. Will it work? Time will tell, but I want it to.It depends on the guy.

I would, if there was the right chemistry between us - all of us. The woman is both an individual AND a member of a team of 5. The new guy needs to see both aspects and be comfortable with both. I dated a woman with pre-teen children who refused to meet mine or let me meet hers. This meant that I could only come to her house when her kids were with Dad. This was completely wrong. The children shouldn't be at the first couple of dates but they must know what's going on and have a voice.

Of Course!

It all depends on how you will deal with it.

First, make sure that you are prepared to start dating again - and also, if your kids are ready to face this new phase - it is always harder on them then on us.

Usually guys who are mature (not on age, but on mind) will face the situation normally. But I must warn you - you will suffer a little prejudice by some guyus who do not date "women with children" - and unfortunatelly this happens anywhere. But odn´t worry - there is always someone for us out there who will fit on our lifestyle. Just don't rush right into it too fast - think. And think again. Then, be happy.

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Of course. Why wouldn't they? If a man will not date you due to the fact you have 4 children, then is he really worth having someone as great as you? You should worry about finding someone to make you happy and someone who can make your children happy as well, as they should come first.

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Women probably don't want to hear the 'obvious', but if she's willing and wanting to go to bed with other (new) men, then yes absolutely. Men think with that "other" thing most of the time (trust me I'm a guy answering this part); so in some cases if she just want to have a physical "good time" then they'll be lining up. And, in the course of doing so, she may then get a chance to find one that is gentle and caring, and likes kids - that's the one she wants to hang on to.

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Some guys would and some guys wont, some guys will accept the fact that you got kids and some wont. But remember that your kids come first. I am 17 and my parents got divorced and they both remarried. THey didnt ask how i felt about everything and i am struggling knowing my parents will never get back together. yeah its been 8 years but i still wish they could get back together. so kids come first but yes guys will and guys wont.. so find the one that will respect you and your kids and love your kids and you as well

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How long should a person wait to get into a serious relationship after divorce?

Depends on how that person feels and believes what a relationship is. There are those who still believe a relationship is forever and if it dies, they grieve the loss as death itself and the time to start another relationship is as long as the grieving process takes. Then there's the Hollywood relationship where the serious relationship is already ongoing before the actual divorce. So it depends on the individual and his/her environment.

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You told your girlfriend that you love her and you do but she said that she couldn't honestly say it back so what do you do now?

Just keep doing what you have done minus the i love you. she now knows you do but she is still unsure. just give her time and she may soon say it back. if later on you really trulley do live her say it again. if she still won't say it just keep waiting. only time can tell if she feels the same way. Usually girls won't say I love because most guys only say it to get down their pants. Just waiting for her to say it shows you really do love her. ==

Just keep going. Don't act any different because of how she feels. She will say it when she's comfortable with it. Don't hate her because she can't or hasn't. If she didn't have some kind of love for you, even the tiniest bit, she wouldn't be with you. She'll say it when its right for her, just give her and it time. ;]

I know the feeling. Listen if you do not want to get hurt by this girl later on down the road, you know what you must do. How long have you been with her? If its been more than half a year, that is the determining sign that you are not ment to be. By this time in the relationship, she ought to know enough about you to make a decision on the matter. She did. She told you that she could not "honestly" say it back. How old are you? Is this your first girlfriend? Give it some time if it hasn't been at least six months. Love for another is a tremendous step in life. Can you see yourself marrying her? If not...what's the point?

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My boyfriend said it to me before I was comfortable saying it back; we had only been dating about 3 months. I agree with the above post; if you've been dating for a short time don't worry about it, but if it's a long-term serious relationship she may just not be in the same place you are. In my situation, at first I just said 'thank you' because I really meant that. After about a month or two I could honestly tell him I loved him. I also agree with the first person's post. :)

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dude i had this problem and what you do is

1ask her if she wants to go out with you

2 if she said no then that is what happend to me you break up but dont dump her (if you know what i mean)

3 if she said yes well you know whay to do Though temptation may lead you to believe that there is nothing left in the relationship, keep holding on. As a teen myself, I know how hard it is to be let down. Often times i think there is no point in trying to get girls, but when I am finally with the girl I like, my whole deamenor changes. It's easy to try and forget about her and to sink into a stage of depression, but if you truly like this girl, you will keep on trying to connect with her. Be yourself, but most importantly, be confident. Smile and act like you normally would. Forget about her saying she doesn't know if she loves you. She's dating you, so shes obviously trying. Forget about ever telling her, stay true to your character.

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Online Dating

How do you meet attractive men online?

It's dangerous and a good suggestion is to pay a fee to a reputable company that gets suitable couples together. They are looking after your welfare as well as monitoring the relationship as it goes along. Meeting online men is dangerous because you just never know who is at the other end. Women disappear this way or were you ever aware of this! Watch the news and talk to the police as they're ripping their hair out at especially women who insist on having online romances. Women go missing, some are murdered while others are kidnapped and some are forced into porn or prostitution. Don't think it can happen to you? Well it can! My Answer- join a free internet dating agency. There are many men out there lonely and divorced or still looking for love. Yes there are a few sharks and bad guys so trust your instincts. If you meet, make it a busy cafe or restaurant spending no more than 2 hours with them. Never go anywhere quiet or back to their hotel or house on a first date. If they travel to meet you, its their problem, they are lucky just to have met you!so don't feel obliged to go ordo anything you're not comfortable with. Try to arrange transport home independently so you can get out of there quickly if necessary and/or not feel trapped in a strangers car. yikes, can't think of anything worse or more dangerous. Safety first.

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Girls Aloud

Why does a single male co-worker always keeps flirt with you and all girls?

This is simple because he can. If you gals didnt entertain what he does, he wouldn't do it. If it makes any of you uncomfortable get together and let him know that his advances are not welcomed or appreciated. If it doesnt stop mention sexual harrassment and see how he reacts to that.

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How do you get a man who does not like to discuss issues to talk comfortably about them?

Try to find a couple's communication class that emphasizes empowering couples. We took a good one based on the book by Sherod and Phyllis Miller, called Talking and Listening Together. They have some good ideas that are practical in real life. They emphasize asking the partner to set a time aside for a talk about a specific topic and provide a way to structure the talk so that it can be productive. Blaming or shaming the other person is not at all part of the process. For me and my partner, we found that Saturday mornings were a great time to tackle tough subjects. The more practice, the more comfortable you get.

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Was Fred Hammond married to Keith Staten's sister?

Yes, she is Kim .They have been divorced for a few years.

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How old are Fred Hammond's children?

He has two children, daughter BreeAnn and adopted son Darius (Bubba).

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Impress a girl throurh sms?

I feel that is the most difficult thing in todays world, although you can show your affection or liking towards a girl by texting her, but i dont think she would be impressed because 90% of the sms now a days are already fowarded, so whatever message you send to her she might have got it twice before. So to Impress her You can start with sms but further go on with her like going for a date, gifts, etc...

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