When I get close to someone and I do something that just doesn't feel right after doing it I freak out because I feel like I messed up when really its nothing to worry about. How can I control this?

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Well u can control this bye when this urge or this uncontrollable thing comes to u just what ever it is stop it and then u will not freak out just do what i said it will be great!!!!!!!! I let my emotions get the best of me and I assume that I did something wrong and I blame myself and make myself feel miserable when I should just calm down and quit thinking all the time about something I may or may not have done wrong until proven I did mess up. Think maybe I just need to mange my emotions better or what? I'm all ears for any type of advice. Its a bad habit that I need to change and I believe it could make my life alot happier if I could control this. Answer Don't worry so much and just be yourself. No one is perfect even though many out there think they are. :-) Just relax and don't worry. I promise, if you do something to mess up somewhere...everyone will let you know believe me. It's cool. Don't worry. Be happy. I realize that now after the fact. I still feel like I may have ruined any possible relationship with her but I don't really know that for sure though either. I'm making sure that I don't beat myself up over it with no hard evidence, so I think I may have already started to change a bit quote(a bit). I talk with my cousin a lot and he helps me when I'm down. I'm just wondering what I can do to change that part of me. Like what could I do to maybe control my emotions so I wouldn't have to feel like this anymore or over react over nothing either. Maybe pick up a new hobby or something I'm not real sure. For future references really, cause I do believe that if I can control this part of me than I could really have a happier life and not feel depressed or even have to cross that bridge again if you know what I mean. Plus I can't always fall back on my cousin cause he just might not be able to be there for me all the time and its not cause he wouldn't but cause he just might be busy or something to where I'm unable to communicate with him ya know. AnswerJust keep working on it and it will get better. Someone very close to me had this same issue. He started some hobbies, some things he is good at, and it helped build his confidence. In addition, he was around other people that he had something in common with where he got feedback from people (sometimes not always nice feedback) but that's how he started learning. He is still working on things but has improved a lot in the last year. As time goes by, he sees that everyone is human and if someone else is so touchy that any little thing that you do is going to turn them away then that person is not worth it anyway. You'll be fine. Just keep working at it. There's a lot of books at the library that can help with things like this. Self-help kind of books. Lots of them! Thanks for everything. Just talking and letting this out makes me feel alot better. I will plan on making myself a better person and keep working on it. Thanks again for everything.