Usually by age 12 they can effectively understand the situation and give their own opinion on whether or not to see their absent parent.
Usually not until the child is 18.
If on SSI, no. If on SSD, there's a separate SSD Child Benefit check that's not deducted from the parent's child, but a modification needs to be requested to set the support to the amount of this check. This will not address any arrears. see links below
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age 18 see links
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Age 18 see link below
Age 18 see links below
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You, (the Absent Parent), and the Custodial Parent both go to your local Child Support Office and file a motion to be heard in front of a judge (in most cases, it's heard on a separate date from the date you file the motion) to cease child support. On the date of the court date, you both appear before a judge and he/she will ask the Custodial Parent if this is his/her wishes. The Custodial Parent will then answer according to how they see fit. The Custodial Parent can also at that time request that all monies owed to him/her from back support that the Absent Parent has not yet satisfied be forgotten. This will clear the slate for the Absent Parent as far as arrears is concerned. Note, this will not clear any monies owed to the State that the Custodial Parent may have received i.e. TANF. You, the Absent Parent, will still be held responsible for paying this back and your child support will continue-only for repayment of State funds received on behalf of the child-until paid in full.
This decision would be up to the district attorney and/or child protective services. I doubt it would ever happen. Lack of involvement by the absent parent is not a defense to child abuse.
16, thats when most children decide which parent, biological or legally, they want to stay with.