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Would a real narcissist tell you that you could do better than to be with them?
Narcissists continually test their companions/mates/spouses - "If she knows my true character will she abandon me"? It would be a mistake to attribute this kind of behavior to altruistic motives. Answer From my experience with an N, they would never say that anyone is better than them. It is probably just a trick to get supply out of you, make you feel sorry for him, because believe me, they don't think anyone is better than them. Answer Yes, to manipulate you.
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Why would a narcissist always say how similar you and she are and how you guys are better than everyone else but then subtly insult you when you have something she wants?
Answer because narcissist are jerks plain and simple.
Because he has had enough women in his past that have dumped him for his narcissistic traits. Narcissists ego-trip, feel those around them are inferior to him and the only rig…ht way is their way. Narcissists are very difficult to live with, so if you aren't too into this relationship I suggest you run! He warned you! They are not humanA narcissist is acutely aware he is different from other human beings. Because he lacks feelings that others possess. He would see himself as superior, and thus manipulates others human feelings to his advantage. Quite a talent to accomoplish since the N has no feelings of his own, albiet just variations on the two emotions he is capable, fear and rage. They will say things like "I am... unique, special", etc., or even claim to be an alien from a different planet, literally. I prefer to refer to them as Vampires because they are not human, feed on others and are a pain in the neck. (LOL!) ....another eerie analogy is vampires cannot see their own reflection in the mirror. As if the narcissist has no true self of his own to see who he really is when he gazes in the mirror. In any case when he tels you that he is different take heed it is a warning. RUNNNNNN!
The outlook is bleak for recovery. A Narcissists grandiosity can be confronted in small windows of crisis such as Divorce or Bankruptcy. In that small frame of time a Narcissi…st may be confronted with their true selves and seek answers. Chances are any chance at therapy would be to re-build their Narcissistic self and become worse than before. Narcissists fear aging and sometimes that can prove to humble the hard edges of the Narcs empty world.
That depends on the level of narcissism you are dealing with. The most dangerous ones are the borderlines. They have a tendency to be more low key therefore are very deceptive…. If they are abusive (especially physical) then you are ready when you feel you have reached rock bottom. You are ready when:You look in the mirror and no longer see the person that you used to be (in a positive way)You feel/look as though you've aged rapidlyYour self esteem is non-existentYou blame yourself for everything going wrong in the relationshipYou are not healthy mentally and sometimes physically (suicidal thoughts, drinking)When you know deep down that the person you have given your life to - your everything to has disappeared. I could go on but honestly to be with a narcissist is like being in a hall of mirrors. They confuse you so much that you are lost and either 1) cannot leave because you're still in love with that non-existent person or 2) you're strung out on the hope that they'll change or your love will fix it or 3) like any abusive relationiship's mental damage - you think there's no one better out there for you. Again, depending on the level of narcissism, if you leave they might act as though they don't care (and probably don't because they REALLY DON'T CARE)and go get a new supply source (new partner - most likely they already have someone in mind). Or they might be psycopathic and become angry. They do have a tendency to try and come back into your life - especially if they know you still love them. To them that means your supply hasn't run out. Months and even years could go by... If you are going to leave then truly leave. Because the damage is so deep rooted, you won't be able to leave them in your heart for some time but you can physically leave them. No contact is the best way to go.
There are different ways to approach this issue depending on the circumstances. here are some suggestions: You may want to do that. But if you don't like how the person's acti…ng then don't be friends with them and just don't hang around them. If you are certain you know what behaviors identify a narcissist and that you are correct about your friend then tell it like it is. Encourage your friend to do some reading about narcissism, especially if they are young enough to change their ways.
How would a narcissist typically feel and react if his wife had a better job and made more money than he did?
He would react with jealousy and envy and could possibly make things very difficult for her by sabotaging the job by contacting employers, co-workers and spread false rumours,… or by flattening her tyres, turning off the alarm clock and genreally making it impossible for her to go UNLESS there was something in it for him but outwardly to her and everyone else he MIGHT show he actually cared and was happy for her. Follow up question...would the lure of money and prestige be enough for a narcissist to accept a situation such as this or is a narcissist's self-esteem and self-importance more important to him than money and prestige? to follow up question: No, it would not. The later is more important.
They would probably not like to hear it, and would most likely deny it. ANSWER: They will most likely 'gaslight', by which I mean they will tell you yo…u're crazy, or on drugs or similar, laugh at you or take mock pity on your silliness. They will say or do almost anything to discredit you, but they will never listen to you, consider your point or admit to or apologise for anything. It's almost a perfect test for narcissism. ANSWER: The above is a possibility but there's also a chance of sending the N into a rage. I don't think confronting a true N is a very good idea. Remember, anything that goes wrong in the relationship is YOUR fault and without outside help he'll never accept criticism. ANSWER: I thought this was pretty profound. It reads something like a bad joke. However, its not! I was dating someone who surely was a narcissist. On this particular occasion had dropped by my apartment unexpectedly. Catching me in the midst of researching narcissism online. After entering the first thing he did was look over my shoulder to see what I was reading on the screen. Upon reading said, "Is that about me"? Dumbfounded I responded, "If you have to ask..."
They need someone who is as focused on them as they are on themselves. So they'd be better off with someone with really low self esteem, or just someone who is a… real giver, and wouldn't mind never getting anything in return.
Its not easy especially if one of your parents is a narcissist and you emulated them as a child. Its best not to self diagnose yourself as tempting as it may be. It is better …to see a mental health care worker and ask them, pyschiatrist or diagnostician would be best. If you do try to be as honest as possible when talking to them. Sometimes when we are ashamed of things we have done we keep them a secret, try to be open about them anyways. Unfortuantly, there are still no garentees for the diagnoses. Doctors make mistakes.
No chance, he will lie and lie and even if you can prove it will turn it round that you are going nuts and seeing things, but confess, no chance. If he or she is and you… can prove it, gahter ALL your evidence, then leave, for one thing is sure if you can pove it and do prove it you will have to pay the price so dont stick around afterwards.
If a Narcissist tells you not to get in touch with them again would the narcissist actually make contact with you again?
Yes it will until he/she makes sure they can't get anything anymore from you , and than if you don't respond , and keep strong with your decision not to be in touch, they will… look for replacement immediately also.
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There are various ways to test the authenticity of gold. Gold is denser than any other metal that might be slipped in as a substitute (osmium is denser, but it is also even m…ore expensive) so if you measure its density you can generally tell. I will point out that since gold generally comes in irregular shapes (jewelry) rather than neat little ingots, you would measure the density by first using a graduated cylinder to measure the volume of the water that the purportedly golden object displaces, and then weigh it, after which it is a simple matter to divide weight by volume to get density. An advantage of this technique is that it doesn't just tell you if the surface is gold, it tells you if the entire object is gold, all the way through. Other tests don't do that. Gold is also softer than other metals which are commonly used, which is why people used to sometimes bite coins to feel how soft they were (although this is not a very precise test). And if you suspect gold plating, you can of course try to scratch through the gold to see if there is another color of metal underneath. Gold also is more inert than most other metals (and again, any other metal that is as inert as gold is also as expensive as gold, or more expensive, so it would not be used to counterfeit gold) so you could test a purportedly golden object by putting it into a beaker of sulfuric acid, and seeing if it reacts. If you have access to a mass spectrometer, you can do a very precise test.
Would a narcissist devalue his supply not having a substitute already but imaginining he could get a better one?
No. They will "put you on a shelf" and pull you off and on while they're looking for "something better". They won't fully let go until they find it.
Yes, but only if he got something out of it.
That's probably not a good idea unless you know what you are doing and know the person well enough.