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They need someone who is as focused on them as they are on themselves. So they'd be better off with someone with really low self esteem, or just someone who is a real giver, and wouldn't mind never getting anything in return.

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Q: Is it better for a narcissist to have a narcissist partner?
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Is a narcissist addicted to his partner?

Not likely. The narcissist is more likely to be addicted to himself.

Why would a narcissist give away a present from his partner to someone else?

To make the partner feel worthless

Does a narcissist enjoy seeing his partner hurting?

He might, but it wouldn't be because of his narcisism. The true narcissist cares about his partner's feelings only to the extent that they reflect on him. The old joke is apt. "But enough about me. Let's talk about you. What do you think of me?"

Can a narcissist hold on to a former permanent partner when they have found a new source?

Being completely self centered, they would probably go for whichever person is better, or cheat on them both.

Why do narcissist come back?

Narcissists need to always be complimented; dramatize their lifestyle or indeavors;adored; admired, etc., and it's 'running out of supplies' for the narcissist when they want to come back to the partner they were with. This means the narcissist is not being supplied to boost his or her's ego and they know they can more than likely get the boost (like a drug addiction) from their former partner.

Will a narcissist change when he changes his partner?

From my own experience a narcissist will never change. Theyre emotional vampires, never happy however much another person tries to give them.

Do narcissists like to have more than one partner?

A true Narcissist wants as many partners as possible, IF all of them idolize the Narcissist. The above answer is correct they do want as many partners as possible. That way if one partner doesn't work out the way narcissist wants he/she has another lined up and ready to go. If you suspect you are with a narcissist-run! Do yourself a favor and get as far away from them as possible. If you ask your narcissist if there is anyone else they will lie to you so you don't leave. Be sure of it as they are all pathological liars. That is one of the many horrible traits of narcissism.

Why would you consistently attract narcissists?

Because you believe the best in people and take them at face value. You believe in giving praise and encouragement instead of criticism. I have been married to a narcissist. It was my second marriage and lasted 9 years and he has just cheated on me and lied to me in ways I find unbelievable. he is now busy in his new fantasy land relationship, denigrating me. Fortunately I have lots of friends who have realised what he was like and are keeping me sane. He has been through strings of relationships. I know I am fortunate I can walk away but he filled my life.On the face of it, there is no (emotional) partner or mate, who typically "binds" with a narcissist. They come in all shapes and sizes. The initial phases of attraction, infatuation and falling in love are pretty normal. The narcissist puts on his best face ? the other party is blinded by budding love. A natural selection process occurs only much later, as the relationship develops and is put to the test.Living with a narcissist can be exhilarating, is always onerous, often harrowing. Surviving a relationship with a narcissist indicates, therefore, the parameters of the personality of the survivor. She (or, more rarely, he) is moulded by the relationship into The Typical Narcissistic Mate/Partner/Spouse.First and foremost, the narcissist's partner must have a deficient or a distorted grasp of her self and of reality. Otherwise, she (or he) is bound to abandon the narcissist's ship early on. The cognitive distortion is likely to consist of belittling and demeaning herself ? while aggrandising and adoring the narcissist. The partner is, thus, placing himself in the position of the eternal victim: undeserving, punishable, a scapegoat. Sometimes, it is very important to the partner to appear moral, sacrificial and victimised. At other times, she is not even aware of this predicament. The narcissist is perceived by the partner to be a person in the position to demand these sacrifices from her partner, being superior in many ways (intellectually, emotionally, morally, financially).The status of professional victim sits well with the partner's tendency to punish herself, namely: with her masochistic streak. The tormented life with the narcissist is, as far as the partner is aware, a just punitive measure.In this respect, the partner is the mirror image of the narcissist. By maintaining a symbiotic relationship with him, by being totally dependent upon the source of masochistic supply (which the narcissist most reliably constitutes and most amply provides) ? the partner enhances certain traits and encourages certain behaviours, which are at the very core of narcissism.The narcissist is never whole without an adoring, submissive, available, self-denigrating partner. His very sense of superiority, indeed his False Self, depends on it. His sadistic Superego switches its attentions from the narcissist (in whom it often provokes suicidal ideation) to the partner, thus finally obtaining an alternative source of sadistic satisfaction.It is through self-denial that the partner survives. She denies her wishes, hopes, dreams, aspirations, sexual, psychological and material needs, and much else besides. She perceives her needs as threatening because they might engender the wrath of the narcissist's God-like supreme figure. The narcissist is rendered in her eyes even more superior through and because of this self-denial. Self-denial undertaken to facilitate and ease the life of a "great man" is more palatable. The "greater" the man (=the narcissist), the easier it is for the partner to ignore her own self, to dwindle, to degenerate, to turn into an appendix of the narcissist and, finally, to become nothing but an extension, to merge with the narcissist to the point of oblivion and of dim memories of one's self.The two collaborate in this macabre dance. The narcissist is formed by his partner inasmuch as he forms her. Submission breeds superiority and masochism breeds sadism. The relationships are characterised by rampant emergentism: roles are allocated almost from the start and any deviation meets with an aggressive, even violent reaction.The predominant state of the partner's mind is utter confusion. Even the most basic relationships ? with husband, children, or parents ? remain bafflingly obscured by the giant shadow cast by the intensive interaction with the narcissist. A suspension of judgment is part and parcel of a suspension of individuality, which is both a prerequisite to and the result of living with a narcissist. The partner no longer knows what is true and right and what is wrong and forbidden.The narcissist recreates for the partner the sort of emotional ambience that led to his own formation in the first place: capriciousness, fickleness, arbitrariness, emotional (and physical or sexual) abandonment. The world becomes uncertain and frightening and the partner has only one thing to cling to: the narcissist.And cling she does. If there is anything which can safely be said about those who emotionally team up with narcissists, it is that they are overtly and overly dependent.The partner doesn't know what to do ? and this is only too natural in the mayhem that is the relationship with the narcissist. But the typical partner also does not know what she wants and, to a large extent, who she is and what she wants to become.These unanswered questions hamper the partner's ability to gauge reality, evaluate and appraise it for what it is. Her primordial sin is that she fell in love with an image, not with a real person. It is the voiding of the image that is mourned when the relationship ends.ANSWERYou may have been raised by a narcissistic parent which makes you a magnet for them.Ive been raised by a narsistic father and mother and brother and sister!And i always seem to attract men into my life that are narcisists, and i don't get itWhy do you think if you have been raised my a narcissistic parent you become a magnet for them?? pls explaine, Ta :)

Narcissist in love with a narcissist?

It's certainly possible. A narcissist may date another narcissist that is more selfish than they are to feel better about themselves. In turn say "i'm not as selfish as he/she is so that makes me above him/her). It's incredible and shocking the way people with this disorder think. It takes a lot of research to understand a narcissist.

Why does your ex narcissist partner drop his head and willl not make eye contact when you try to talk to him?

Because he knows he has "Decieved" you.

When your narcissistic partner starts to rant and rave and call you disgusting names should you just ignore him?

Ignore while planning your escape. A narcissist will destroy you in every way imaginable. Run as fast as you can from this person. It will never get better, only worse as time goes by.

What is the difference between sociopath and narcissist men?

There are technical differences, but it is largely a matter of degree. Neither is likely to ever be a decent partner.

Does the narcissist hurt or miss the partner after a breakup?

No narcissist are too full of themselves to care fir others or miss them

How do you tell if a narcissist is done and will leve me alone?

A narcissist will leave you alone when they find another source of narcissistic supply they think is better/more exciting than you.

Why would a narcissist always say how similar you and she are and how you guys are better than everyone else but then subtly insult you when you have something she wants?

because narcissist are jerks plain and simple.

You think your husband is a narcissist what do you do?

# Get counseling for yourself. # Do NOT Tell him you suspect he's a destructive narcissist! # Learn all you can about this incurable personality disorder # Think about leaving him and things will NOT get better.

Why is your ex narcissist partner telling lies about you?

It is what they do. Why do flies fly? That is what you would expect them to do. They are very self centered. That is why you don't get involved with people like that.

Will a narcissist pie his partner to humiliate her?

as in "throw pies at her"? It's not the favoured method of humiliating people in real life but I suppose it could happen.

Will a narcissist treat a wealthy woman better than he treated his past relationships?

A narcissist is not likely to treat a wealthy woman better than he treated his past relationships. The reason for this is because he can't truly change his ways without help.

Can a narcissist be happy for his partner's success?

The answer to this question is paradoxical. On the one hand, the narcissist may indeed claim happiness for his partner's success if the success reflects and mirrors him as successful. However, on the other hand if the narcissist perceives the partner's success as "outdoing him," then disdain and contempt might be observed. Moreover, the N might demonstrate a facade of "happiness" all the while seething beneath the surface of his mask for the success of his partner. N's cycle in and out of idealizing and devaluing their partners and in turn, the answer to the question is dependent upon the N's cycle and ever-changing stance of idealizing and devaluing. Finally, happiness as healthy functioning people define and experience such totally eludes the N's existence. The primary emotion for a N is anger and it is my belief "to be without anger for an N is his happiness."

What does a narcissist do when he encounters a partner who is too confident and strong for him and whom he has initially idealized?

It depends on what loss of control is at stake but whatever it is, the partner will eventually be devalued. It's all about him being in CONTROL. If he's a somatic narcissist and his sex domination worked in the beginning he may initially enjoy the reverse happening, however this won't last as he realises the loss of HIS sexual control. He will be on the lookout for a more attractive, sexually submissive woman who will bring him primary narcissistic supply and maintain the sexual omnipotence he desires. In terms of the cerebral narcissist, if the partner is older, he may find alternative supply in a younger, equally intelligent woman who will admire HIM for his knowledge. The partner will also end up being devalued in this process. She will be portrayed as too controlling, too pushy, too forward, too absorbed, - 'crazy' at times. My experience with the somatic narcissist is that they never hang around long enough with the same partner, or get close enough to allow their loss of control to occur. They keep you 'dangling'.They are ALWAYS on the look out for primary supply. Their commitment to the primary relationship is fleeting and as time progresses they become bored with the once idealised partner. When she realises she is being 'used' and asserts any control, the narcissist retreats and labels her as tiresome and demanding. The 'novelty' of the idealised woman doesnt take long to wear off.

How does narcissist pick a mate?

He/she picks a partner based on how much narcissist supply that person has to give. It may come in the form of sex, the attention of being with an attractive person (if you're hot), or using that person for something they have like a beach house and the narcissist will be able to go there for free with the mate. A narcissist might choose a mate that is known in the community as successful. Being associated with someone even slightly famous is narcissist supply for them. So if you've got something to give and the narcissist knows it--be it money, sex, adulation, good looks, a beach house, a Paris apartment, celebrity--they'll be all over you.

Does a narcissist ever reflect on the what they had with a previous partner and regret walking away?

No, my advise is to stop hoping they will realize everything they have lost. Move on. They are mentally ill.

How to turn the tables in a narcissist relationship?

Unfortunately, narcissism is a life long disease. If your partner is clinically narcissistic, there is very little hope of him or her ever changing.

Does a narcissist always need s partner?

yes, narcissistic people feel that themselves are the center of everthing, but at the end of the day.. everyone needs someone!