A REAL MAN,HUSBAND and FATHER would not make this comment. He should not begrudge the fact that he should provide things for his family and in the same token he should not be working 15 hours a day and have nothing to show for it. Either he is making excuses for another reason he wants a divorce or is totally unhappy at this point in his life and needs to vent somewhere else, like a therapist. The son that live with you with a child should be providing for himself and that child, giving you and your husband, monies for rent, food,electricity, anything that he would have to pay if he lived on his own. The younger child, if not of working age, should be doing what he can around the house to show responsibility. You, too can be going to work to help ease the pressures your husband obviously feels, even if its part time. You have to examine WHY this statement came out. Do you live a modest life and have savings or do you live beyond your means and are in hock up to your ears. Your husband may feel its time for the birds to fly the coop, he may have the feeling that he would like to live his life now that his duties in financially supporting two boys is over, so to speak. Sit down with all in the family to see what, if anything you ALL can do to help the situation. If your husbands only answer is divorce then this has been going on a long enough time for him to act out in this way. One more thing are these boys even his children? That can have something to do with it too. It is possible that your husband is well-meaning, but feels unable to control or reasonably influence the situation. It sounds as if your son with the child is yours and not his. If this is so, your husband may be justified in wanting the son to be on his own, or at least working and taking care of his own needs and the needs of the child. The son could be contributing something to the household rather than being a drain, and in that case your husband might be ok with the son remaining there and get some benefit from not having to pay a regular rent right away. If this were my son, I would have clear expectations and a proposed date of "independence". The son's situation and readiness can be reviewed, but at some point for his own good I would get him the heck out of the house. Your responsibility is clearly toward your younger child, but this doesn't mean that you can't find some part-time work, and at least make some monetary contribution to the house as well. You and your husband have to think in the long term, and that means that you have to have a plan to save and prepare for future stages of life. It is not unreasonable for a couple to consider each other to be the important focus of the relationship, even with children involved. I am not talking about neglect of children. Children must be nurtured and raised, and taught to be adults. Husbands and wives are dedicated to each other for the long haul, and that focus cannot be put on a back burner.
If you're the noncustodial parent, you might be liable. The fact that your husband has a child by someone else is irrelevant to this.
Yes, if he wins the custody Battle. He would have to go to court for that, though.
That may provide grounds for divorce in your jurisdiction. In any case, he is responsible for the support of that child until the child reaches at least eighteen years of age.
If your husband has broken off the affair with the mistress then your husband should do the right thing and pay child support, but that does not mean you have to accept the child into the family. If the mistress does not want the child then it is up to you whether you want to help to raise that child. If your husband is still seeing his mistress then pack his bags and kick him out and either file for a separation or divorce.
No. While pregnant in the state of KY a divorce cannot be finalized. Furthermore, the child legally belongs to the husband, even if it is not biologically his. And when the time to divorce arrives all parties involved must sign affidavits of paternity of the child.
no, it requires the permission of the court.
Yes see links below
child support cannot be cleared
Well ! Yes.
Child support is paid to the wife so she can have money to raise the child. Maybe your husband made more money than his wife when they were still married. It's all in divorce papers. Talk to your husband about it.
No. It has no effect on the court order between the two of you.
The child will be assumed to be the child of the marriage. However, a husband could request a DNA test and disclaim a child who is not his in some jurisdictions. You need to consult with an attorney in your state.