02 tacoma that wont start new fuel filter and has fuel to the throttle body will run if starting fluid then dies?

You have a fuel pressure problem it sounds like b/c you spray starting fluid & the car runs & then shuts off after the fluid has burned off. If you continued with this starter fluid - it would keep running. So if you had adequate fuel pressure - the car would run. Maybe faulty fuel pump or vacuum loss in fuel system not allowing fuel to flow where it is needed.