Asked in Preteen RelationshipsGay Lesbian and Bisexual
A twelve year old girl is attracted to guys-hasn t had relations with girls and doesn t want to but her mind tells her that she wants to be with girls but she knows that she does not-is she a lesbian?
September 12, 2011 3:40PM
This is very trying time for you. I suggest that you talk to someone who will help you with this without being judgemental. I know that if you can talk to someone who cares about you, you hopefully will get some good advice from them. Is there a school counselor that you can talk to. Do you have an older gay brother or sister? If you do talk to them they will be able to help you. Do you know of any gay relatives that you could talk to without blabbing it to the entire family.
Your feelings about this are very powerful, take your time with this. Don't let your emotions run away with you. Don't hate yourself about this it makes it only so much harder to deal with. I hated myself for such a long time, I spent years hating myself, it didn't do me any good. It just made my life miserable.
Whether you are straight, bisexual or a lesbian always love yourself for who you are.
You are not a bad person if you are any of these.
These feelings that you are having are obviously upsetting you. Attraction to men or women is hard to define. Don't define yourself as straight, lesbian or bisexual. define yourself by how you want to love and how you want to loved somebody else. This can be a man or a woman. What is most important is does he or she make you happy? This is always one of the most important questions. The other would be do you love him or her and do they love you to.
When I came out their were really no organizations to help with this. Now their are so many. Try googling gay youth organizations. Also try talking to someone at PFLAG. Parents and friend of lesbians and gays. Someone out there will help you, just don't be afraid to ask for it.
I know you are smart and can deal with this, just let someone else also be there to help you. Now here is some of my advice as if you haven't read enough already. You are twelve enjoy being twelve. As important as this issue is don't forget to have fun, hang out with friends and so on. Here are some sayings that have helped me. "To thine own self be true". Also " A life lived in fear is a life half lived". Hope this helps.
like whatthis person says, it is true, talk to a parent. but if you can't hep yourself havae sex one time with a girl, maybe you will change your feelign about liking girls, i know i did
it does feel good when they Ike you better than a dude i an tel you that! but i still feel so good when we are in the shower doing it or with a three sum, sorry getting in dept. but like i said do that. im going to cal kritina right now and tell her to come over and have sex naked on the kitchen table. it willl feel so good, and i am only fifteen. i am going to be so horny tomight