Answering How does some one grief if they don't want to let go of a loved one and is built up inside and want's to let go but doesnt no how?

Answer 1

Hi

I am sorry for your loss. Grief is such a personal thing, and there is not time limit on it. It might lessen over time, but nothing will wash that person out of your life, nor should you want to. But you have to make the grief manageable so you can grieve but you can also function in other areas of your life. Fortunately, we have many grief counselors who specialize in helping you compartmentalize your grief so you can go to work, take care of the children, or just get out of bed in the morning. I suggest you go to the home page for Psychology Today magazine. You can input your zip code and you will get a list of therapists in your area and each therapist lists their specialty. You need to look for someone whose specialty (or one of their specialties) is grief counseling or grief management. They will help you with the remembering, but letting go part that you are having a hard time with. If you can't find a specialist in that list, contact your local hospital. They deal in grief every day and will certainly either recommend someone they use, or have an on-staff counselor you can meet with.

Phil Another way of coping with grief that can be a tremendous help is to keep a journal. This way, when you feel the need to just get a lot of emotions out, you can write down everything you feel, without worrying about what anyone may think of what you are feeling. Grief is so personal, and everyone deals with it in their own way, that they sometimes wonder if what they are feeling is 'normal'. There is no right or wrong way to grieve; you have to do it in what ever way works for you. Don't let anyone tell you that "you need to do...." or that "you need to stop doing.....". Your feelings are yours, and you have every right to them. So by writing down all of your feelings, you are releasing them, which will help the recovery process. But as the first answer above says, counseling is also highly recommended. If you can't afford a therapist, check with your local colleges to see if they have a Counseling Program. Many universities do, and their fees are based on your ability (or inability) to pay. When you call to get this info, ask for the Psychology Department, which is the dept. that will be able to help you with this info.