Are there many narcissistic deadbeat dads who will not even acknowledge that they have a child?

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YES! Absolutely. If they truly are narcissistic then they are the ones that live a long and miserable life without many friends, much of a past or a future. When we get older sometimes memories are all we have. Narcissistic people have no less chance of living or dying at any given time like the rest of us. I can understand why you are angry, but please realize just how lucky you are to have this twit out of your life. A deadbeat dad is a someone I have zero tolerance for myself. When I worked up North, it was a prime place for fathers who were running away from the responsibility of helping out their ex's financially, so every couple of months I had my "red list" and when the RCMP came up, I handed it over. Of course most of these men were mad as heck at me, but I stood my ground, told them they should be ashamed of themselves and what kind of man would desert his own child(ren) and not getting along with their wives was a completely different issue. I explained to each of them that they could go through a lawyer and ask their ex's to produce the receipts that indeed all the money they sent was going directly to the child(ren.) In 3 months, 3/4 of those men came up to me and asked me to hold back 50% of their wages and send it onto their wives. Call me a rat for doing that, but hey, it's about the kids and not the adults. I'd do it all over again if I had to. Forget this guy, and know you are very strong within yourself. Realize that if you use up all your energy on anger towards him, you risk using up the good part of your life and that of your child and also, the chance to meet some really nice guy that you could have a wonderful future with. It's time for you to move on and I know you can do it. Good luck Marcy My exN has spent a total of one day with our daughter since I left him 4 months ago. He is also not paying child support and really wants nothing to do with our daughter. He has not even asked for any kind of visistation. I count myself among the lucky few as some of these N's can be very vindictive and fight like hell for custody of their children as they consider them supply. Since our daughter has been born the N has had very little to do with her and I considered him nothing more than a sperm donor and my friends called me "married single mother". My N was too in love with himself to acknowledge the wants or needs of others. ---- Aside from the above opinion, many men are forced into being dads when they are not ready for it, and have no rights to abort their responsibility for the child, during the pregnancy, or within two years after the birth, like women can. Are women who do this any less narcissistic deadbeats? On top of that, over 30% of those ordered to pay child support are not even related to, nor adopted, the child. As result of the growing reports of Paternity Fraud, 30 states have adopted laws on it in the last few years, but 20 states remain, and states like Missouri gives men just two years to lear if they are not the father of the children.