Are you wrong to cheat on your man while he is in jail?

Answer 1

Let's think about this for a minute. Having asked the question, you are:

1. thinking about it - and you should keep thinking about it only; I'll get back to this in a moment.
2. or you have already done it and you are seeking justification for doing so. In which case, stay tuned and examine the potential consequences.

For what ever reason, your "man" was locked up. Okay, say what you want about his morals or ethics, he is doing the time for doing the crime. He may learn from this or he may not, but it is likely not much of a comment on his feelings for you.

Right now, while he is locked up, he is alone. Sure, he is surrounded by dozens, perhaps hundreds of other people, all guys, but he is more alone now than he has ever been in his life. Hard as he might be, and as unlikely as it is he would ever admit it, he misses you more than he has ever missed anyone. He thinks about you every minute of every waking hour of every day, and when he is asleep, you haunt his dreams.

You may miss him too. But wait! You are considering cheating on him while he is at his most vulnerable. There is a comment there to your moral turpitude, a comment you made.

Now, consider that 98% of the people locked up in the US today will one day be released. How much he misses you will depend greatly on how long he has been gone, no matter how often you have visited him. Let that percolate for a minute.

Consider also that one of the highest rates of crime in the US is for domestic assault or assault rising out of a domestic situation. The ratio of murder associated with these crimes is quite high as well. One course of behavior by no means justifies the other, however one must consider where one steps when taking a walk down a dimly lit path. You may not be responsible for the behavior of another, but you are responsible for your part in the unraveling of a situation like this.

There are consequences for every action. Your man is learning this now. If you cheat on your significant other while he is incarcerated, there will be consequences. What those are can only be determined by you, him, and the relationship the two of you have. The outlook, however, is not a good one.

All of that being said, do the right thing: either honor the commitment you made to him and remain true, or simple send him a Dear John letter and make a clean break. Regardless of which side of the line on which you now stand, the sooner you make the break, the better.