Can a chronic cheater be faithful once his wife discovers the truth about her husband's emotional affair of eight years and can he remain faithful knowing that he sees her every day at work?

Answer 1

My BF of ten years has cheated on me with SIX women that I know of! I am sure there have been more. I left him when I caught with the girl befor this last one. We got back together after 3 mths. It has been three yrs since then and I recently found out he has been seeing someone else for the last year. They don't stop no matter what they say. I am stuck in a very unhappy situation. I have 2 kids a part-time job that pays next to nothing and I am in school part-time. I can't afford to leave right now. The house and everything else is in his name. I feel that if I had left after the first one I would probably be in a higher paying job and I would have made better choices to financially secure myself. Now I have to be with a person I loved that obviously could care less about my happiness, lies, and thinks he should be able to have his cake and eat it too. I don't care what anyone says once they chaet if you stay with them they think it's ok and they continue to do it. Leave now and know that you could be happy some day. Nicole No! I do feel very badly for you and I know how you feel because I was cheated on as well, but thank God, I found out sooner. Just think of this ... this guy cost you 8 years of your life! Doesn't that make you angry? I bet it does, so why stay with this jerk? You need to reevaluate yourself and find out who you are and where you want to go in your life. Ask yourself why you have put up with this for so long. It basically comes down to a lack of self confidence. I know it's scary to be with someone for a long while, and then have to pull the plug and be out on your own, but once you do it, it only takes a few months and you realize just how strong you are and you feel like a caged bird set free. I don't like the term "emotional affair" because it just doesn't fly with me that a person can see someone for a year or more and never have sex. If you believe this one then pigs fly! The fact your husband is cheating and you had to find out about it means he'll keep on cheating. If he hadn't been caught he'd still be cheating! Since he works with this girl do you honestly believe he'll stop seeing her? Even if he changes job this guy is looking for "fun" and "excitement" and he'll have another affair with someone else. Some men often talk themselves into affairs when they feel stressed out in their marriage or have money problems and women can do this as well. Cheating is way down on the list of my food chain and I would never put up with it. Once is enough and if the person is truly sorry and they haven't done it before then perhaps a second chance should be given, but the fact your husband has had 8 years with this woman says a lot. 8 years out of your life! The reason I don't like cheaters is because they have many options. They can work out their problems or even see a marriage counselor. If that doesn't work then it's wise to separate and file for divorce. That's the adult way! Cheaters trap themselves every time because they know they cheat so they figure their counterpart will cheat on them sooner or later. Kick him to the curb! He simply isn't worth it and you deserve a happy future too. There are a lot of nice, faithful guys out there. After my first marriage I thought I would never trust another man again, but came to my senses and refused to let one man tarnish all other men. I met and married a wonderful guy and we've been married for 33 years. Yup, we have our problems, but we work them out and yes, we have our arguments, but we settle our differences. For the most part our marriage is full of fun and laughter. Marcy