I wish I knew. Then I could take responsibility for it, and I would process that information and do the right thing whether it be apologize and mean it or walk away. But I have not yet figured it out. I have reflected on many of the checklist items she gave me on things that bother her. But I never reached the end. I deleted it once because it was so painful. Basically, she doesn't like who I am at all, which is surprising since most people like to be around me.
My eldest daughter and I have always had a butting heads type of relationship. When she was very small, I was her world. In the years to come, she'd let me do things for her, but she often complained, wouldn't chip in and help, and talked down to me. I taught at the private college prep school she attended, and being that close was hard.
I developed a problem with alcohol when she was in her later teens. I fell apart. It took me a while to "pull it together," but my child made things much worse by treating me so terribly. I went to rehab, afraid, concerned about my girls, and just plain sick having to face what I become. She promised me to call and/or letter every day. She'd take good care of the condo, and she'd watch over her sister. Well, she never once called or wrote. She trashed my condo and sold my things. The list goes on and on, yet she is the one who ended things with us.
I have never understood why, though I feel my general personality makes her uncomfortable. She's very rigid and super sensitive, and not always comfortable in her own skin. I am direct and honest, and a goof. But I am not always comfortable in my own skin either, especially around her because I feel she is always judging me. I think she feels the same about me.
She did not invite me to her wedding. I can't say that without tears welling up. I wonder if she'd care, but I wish she knew how devastating and shattering this has been on me-my soul-my heart-my life. My older sister's as well. She loves both girls, and though we both know we made mistakes, my daughter says she's made none, this is 100% my fault. How is growth possible if there's no room for error and reflection? My sister realized how the girls may have felt abandoned when I was struggling, and they needed help and support. We both feel they are resentful of me being with such a low life as my ex, but at the time, I thought he was so kind and good to everyone. We loved each other so much, and when my oldest daughter would be unpleasant, I didn't say anything when the sociopath replied or reacted. I let them know each other and hopefully like each other. Sociopaths come in between loved one's relationships, which is what he did to my sister and me. The girls too, but we haven't had a chance, maybe never will, to discuss it.
She walked away-gave up, and it had just been about communicating and I wanted us to have a more adult relationship, with thoughtfulness and kindness along with respect in the mix. Something I have rarely experienced as she grew into adulthood, professionally and now, married to a wonderful guy., We could easily have worked through this, but she doesn't fight for us. She never has. It's much easier for her to walk away from my life, taking my youngest daughter with her. I can't see how they are living with themselves, except I know they make up these stories, probably used them at the wedding when people asked where I was. They get together, me being the common "enemy" and the oldest convinces the youngest her version of a situation [of fairy tale] and regardless of how deeply untrue it is, they stick with their story and each other.
Will she ever realize what she has done and is doing, but past actions lead me to believe no. I don't want to lose my youngest [don't' want to lose either] but I can only reach out when my gut lets me know of an opportunity. Thanks.
Mothers are people and people have around 4-6 dominant personality traits of the 16 main traits. Sometimes a daughter will inherit personality traits from another relative which pose unresolvable clashes with the mother's personality. Some personality traits are compatible with the same ones in someone else. For example, two people with the solitary trait will respect each other's need for solitude and nervousness of intimacy. Similarly two people with the avoidant personality trait will be unlikely to drag each other into daring or embarrassing situations which most stress both of them. But take the self confident, dramatic, aggressive or conscientious traits. Two people both vying for admiration, attention, power or control can easily clash even if they share similar traits. The mythology that mothers are some completely different entity to simple female human beings makes it hard for many to imagine how a mother can hate their daughter but understanding personality clashes can happen between a woman and any one of the children she happens to be mother of, makes it more comprehensible. A maternal instinct may not be strong enough to overcome such clashes and some personality traits cause people to struggle with intimacy, entanglement and caring and personality clashes can then be an additional burden greater than the woman in question may be able to strive against in any long term or ongoing way. Often, the reasons for such a thing can be found in personality disorders such as Narcissism and psychopathy.
i wouldn't say that a mother hates her daugther i would say dislike , myself i truly truly dislike my mother leaning towards hate a bit i do like who she is how she is and i am glad i never had to live or her raise me . So i would a mother can truly dislike her daughter but i will always love my mom but do not like her .Answer:She might not have wanted the child to begin with. She can have drug problems or illnesses like depression. When that happens even every day things becomes too much and having a child means a lot of responsibility which can feel like too much. She can have had dreams for her life that never happened and having a child stopped her from doing many things or the man she loved didn't want kids and left. There can be many reasons she resents her child. I doubt it really would be hate though and it often is that she hates herself and take it out on the child.
Sometimes it's a case of you reap what you sow. Just because you gave birth to her does not mean she automatically have to love and respect you if you have not given that back in the first place. Mothers also seem to have a different attitude and pressure on their daughters then on their sons. Sons also seem to have no problem getting help from mom while daughters like to stand on their own 2 legs and be more independent. It's not hate, just breaking away and becoming an adult. Some mothers don't like it or don't get it because they never had that with their moms or they don't want it to happen. The mother-daughter relationship can be quite complicated and it starts early. Also being an adult and maybe even with a family of your own, it then can be very aggravating to be treated like a child by your mother. Some parents have a hard time to let go or to see how their child has changed. Some Adult children are so afraid of being seen as unable to cope that they deliberately hit out at the one person in their lives that unconditionally should love them, and accept them for what they are. The thing that adult daughters should remember though, that if they in turn have children, they reap what they have sown.
not really. hatred would be too strong to say about that kind of relationship. your mother would always love you, thouh she may dislike you sometimes, she always loves you!
Mothers can hate their daughters. They cannot show any action that indicates love, compassion and understanding. It is a very sad thing for the adult child becuase society doesn't accept this. But there are plenty of victims that have not spoken because of the above's mentality that have been planted in our brains since childhood which is a mother will always love her children. Unfortunately, there are several situations that this is not true, thus the negative and devastating impact on the emotional and pyschological development of the person.
To much demanding by saying do that do this, I don't like that and insist what they want with an attitude of a nagger parents. If you want your child to be obedient train them early at age of one year old or early for that so he/she is good follower... 😁
Because, the daughter might have annoyed the mother.If the daughter didn't, then. the mother just needs somebody to put their anger out on
only in books they hate their children
Yes there are parents who dislike or even hate their children.
Some mothers are unable to love their children. Fortunately is is the minority. Others love their children but realize they are unable to care for their children and give them up.
It Depends. Not every daughter father relationship is the same. There are daughters who hate their father. And their are some who love them because there he onlyones there for them. Everybody's different.
The duration of I Hate My Teenage Daughter is 1320.0 seconds.
I Hate My Teenage Daughter was created on 2011-11-30.
The daughter of your father's daughter is his granddaughter. She is either your niece, or your daughter.
I Hate My Teenage Daughter - 2011 was released on: USA: 2011
Because of her daughter's character
the elationship between father and daughter is a daughter must love her father and respect him and be honest to him ,,and the father must obei his daughter and follow her advice for them to be in peace
Your father's aunt's daughter is your father's first cousin and your first cousin, once removed.
You are the cousin of your father's aunt's daughter.
Your father's brother's daughter is your first cousin.
Anyone can make your daughter hate you if you don't have an on-going, good relationship with your daughter and your daughter is open to the influence of the other person. It depends on many factors, starting with what Sis tells her about you.
Letters from a Father to His Daughter was created in 1929.