Do modern day parents negotiate with their children more than in the past?

Answer 1

Negotiate is a great term and one that shouldn't even enter into parenthood and children. To negotiate means you are striking a deal. I grew up in the 1950s and when my parents told us to do something we did it without question and that's the way it should be until you can show some sign of responsibility. Today some kids are given too much too fast and once out in society and the working world they feel everyone owes them something and they should get top wages right off the top without earning it. I've seen mom or dad slip the old plastic to the kids to do their own clothes shopping for school. I consider this a lack of care and also down right stupid. Since divorce is high and unwed mothers are no longer scorned upon it's difficult to work to provide a living and also give quality time to their children, but it can be done! There are still parents that are married that give little time to their children and that's simply wrong. Some of the very parents raising their young children today also want it all and aren't willing to give up certain things to raise their children or make sacrifices that our parents did in the 1940s and 1950s and even before that. Simply put, when one gets something too easily they don't appreciate it and if one doesn't learn from the parents (their job) then they have problems in their own personal lives as they begin to mature. In most parts of the world, laws [government enacted, or cultural] specify that an adult is legally responsible for both the care, AND the actions of a child. Additionally, they give the parent absolute authority in the control of the child's life, UNTIL that child reaches adulthood [age of maturity or majority]. Until that point, a child has no say or control, nor should s/he have as there has not been adequate time for gaining the education/knowledge necessary for a safe survival of the child out in "the world." As answer 1 says, negotation is NOT AN OPTION, as a child [although s/he may think otherwise] is NOT CAPABLE of knowing all the pitfalls and hazards, and therefore not qualified to participate in decision making, including negotaition. If however, a child legitimately believes a parents position is not right, s/he should be able to discuss the issue with the parent, but as also pointed out in answer 1, negotion is out as it involves "dealing," and a child is not qualified for that level of participation.j3h.