Does your husband still love his ex-wife if he made the remark that if she would have acted right she could still be here?

Answer 1

Depends on how he said it. if he said it with meaning and she left him she might very well still have feelings for her but if he said it in a mocking or rgredy kind of way and/ or he left her i dont think he still likes her. This sounds very much like his love is dependent on the woman acting "right." I think that I'd believe him and be very aware of his outlook in terms of your relationship, and see if he will comment further. Be very aware of how he reacts to your actions regarding the following: "I have the right to be treated with respect. I have the right to say no and not feel guilty. I have the right to experience and express my feelings. I have the right to take time for myself. I have the right to change my mind. I have the right to ask for what I want. I have the right to ask for information. I have the right to make mistakes. I have the right to do less than I am humanly capable of. I have the right to feel good about myself. I have the right to act only in ways that promote my dignity and self-respect as long as others are not violated in the process." (from Love Unlimited) That is not to say that he is abusive, but rather that you should be somewhat vigilant so that you don't turn yourself inside out to please him without consideration for yourself.