Has any young girl had to go through the loss of a child?
when i was 15 i got pregnant. i was 16 1/2 weeks along (4 1/2 months) and i had a miscarriage. i already new what my baby was. it was a girl we had a name picked out and everything. Hailey Lynn but i lost her. now im trying to get pregnant. and if i do im hoping its a girl. im going to name my first girl hailey Lynn in memory of the baby i almost had. im now 17 and still havent been pregnant since.
Yes...I am sixteen and currently 6 months along...but when i was 14 i lost my first baby at 5 months...I was kicked in the stomache repeatavly by the father...Scince then i have been pregnant 5 times and lost all my babies..i wasnt supposed to be able to carry a baby after that but loook now...i have my beautiful child that I cant wait to meet. Everything will work out. i just realized that that child wasnt ment for me.
Hello. I was 15 yrs old and 7 months pregnant when I lost my daughter. It is the hardest thing in the world, not just because the loss is final, but because you always believe in your heart that there was something more to do. The baby's dad was not around at the time, so what I remember the most was sitting by myself in that cold hospital room, waiting to give birth to my deceased child. It was a lonely experience and not one I would like to repeat again. What helped my was holding her, even though she had passed, to let her know that even though she was gone, that mommy still loved her no matter what. It has been almost 4 yrs and even though the memories are fresh, the pain is not so raw as it once was. I know that no amount of "it will be alright" can help as all you'll want to hear is that your child isn't really dead. But please believe that God had intended it to be so for a reason and that things will get better. I am now 7 1/2 months pregnant with my second child, and all is going well. Just goes to show that with a little faith and some time, this too shall pass. Please write me at www.myspace.com\emmicah if you wanna talk or just want someone who understands. God bless.
One of the common feelings, that seems to happen, eventhough in most cases there is nothing we could have done to prevent it, is what I call the "coulda', woulda', shoulda'" syndrome. These guilt feelings are all part of what we have to work through. No matter what your spiritual space may be, for myself and others I've known, in time we discover our loved one (yes we fall in love with our babies from the first kick) seems to be with us in spirit to keep close and share our thoughts.
Please allow yourself to greive, it's a process that takes time. But realize in time, you will start to feel better because your'e supposed to, and you will probably gain strengths you can pass on to others some day.
There are groups for greiving that you can find through your county mental information lines (no shame). I strongly encourage you or your loved one (if this is some relative's question) to fine one of these groups. You are with people that understand what you are going through and you don't have to say anything if you don't want to, just listen so you won't feel so alone.-Big Hug.
"A mother holds her child's hand for awhile, but their hearts forever."