How can I forget my past abusive relationship?

Answer 1

u can never forget wat happened to u in ur past abusive relationship n i think one shud not even forget it...by that i don't mean to hold on to ur memories but a person can only learn frm his mistakes...u have to move on, break the abusive cycle n never forget how the one u loved took advantage of u...u can use that to ur own advantage..there r 2 sides of everythin...positive n negative...if ur memories get the better of u ur likely to stay depressed but if u use those bad memories to ur advantage n be positive abt it u'll see that in all of ur future relationships ppl will not be able to abuse u in any kinda way...u'll remember the signs n the pattern n if ur strong enuff, u wont let that happen to urself again... sure these things r hard to forget n it hurts when we remember each n every detail but not lettin that happen again to us is wat counts the most... hope i helped... God Bless!

i don't think you can forget about the past abusive relationship, i thibk by going through it you are made stronger, and realise the signs in order not to go through the same situation again. you need to realsise that life is now better and that you can move on eventually trust agin and hopefully lead a more fullfilled life, wheather that be on your own or with a new partner.

Unless you develop a dissociative disorder, you can't really forget about past abuse. But you can forgive and heal.

You cannot forget the abuse. It's best you don't forget because in forgetting you will no longer remember what you previously went through. Also, if you forget, you'll never remember the warning signs of the abusive relationship and you will fall prey again. But you can forgive and move on. By that I don't mean you have to physically be present to tell the abuser you forgive them for what they did...just in your heart and soul you can forgive and move on into healing. It's a terrible thing to be abused by another person, espcially one in whom you loved and it wasn't recipricate back. Know this, there are plenty of other people out there who are capable of loving you and not abusing you. God Bless

Answer 2

here's my personal quote for which i live by "yesterday is gone and today starts a new life for which you control, if you wake up thinking about wrongs of yesterday you have already ruined the day, and you have to start all over again the next" and if you ruin to many days you will look at yourself years down the road and realize that it is to late to start over again so do it now while you still have a grip on it,,, hope that helps:0)

I like what the other poster said. I was in a emotional/physical abusive marriage for almost 4 years. It hurt so I know how you feel. At first you tend to blame ourselves because you simply can't understand why anyone would treat you in such a way when you didn't deserve it. Well, there are some sick and nasty people out there. I divorced by first husband and found my own apartment and got a new job, made new friends and did date. I made up my mind that I wasn't going to let one man sour me against all men and so, I dated and was as careful as I possibly could be to pick men I thought were kind and gentle and most were (none were abusive.) I also gave myself a chance to get to know who and what I was about and got to know my own strengths and weaknesses. I learned from that bad relationship. I met and married a wonderful man and had absolutely no problem in the fear that he too would be emotionally/physically abusive to me because I knew now what signs to look for and I had the control to walk out the door anytime I wanted if this behavior happened.

Here is a quote I have on my fridge: "WHEN YOU DON'T FORGIVE SOMEONE THAT HAS HURT YOU THEY STILL HAVE CONTROL OVER YOU!" Let it go, and enjoy!

well, to be honest, some of those memories will stay with you for awhile because things affect everyone less or more differently than other people. I was in an emotional abusive relationship for 4 years and I am currently in a healthy loving relationship 6 months later, but I still have some doubt and trouble letting go some of those things I went through. It's natural to feel that way because you are scared of being hurt again, especially if the person before hurt you tremendously. the only thing I can suggest, which is what I am currently doing myself, is to just let go of those memories and make new good ones. you know what to expect now and what you are not willing to put up with if things start going wrong again. take what you learned from the past abusive relationship and apply it to your new relationship. most likely you have learned something already because you have established a new relationship as it is, and most likely this guy is an improvement from the last. just go with the flow. and as much as this may suck to say and hear, if a guy is going to hurt you there really isn't anything you can do about it. we don't know who and when we will be hurt but we can control our own actions. as long as you are true to yourself and treat people with respect, then those who hurt you will have that on their heads, not you.

Answer 3

i wonder about this myself. once a few years back, i saw this man, and he looked strangely familiar to me, like i had to have known him once. i believe in past lives, so right away, i felt that maybe that he was part of my past life once. i liked this guy i saw at the time, but i was too young, i was only 15 years old. i didn't know any better at the time, obviously. now that I'm older, i feel that i may have known him. that maybe he was a past life love. i started doing past life regression, and i actually saw the same man that i saw 4 years before, except he was in a suit. he told me he loved me once very much. i don't understand why me and this man in this lifetime were never meant to be. i guess that maybe certain circumstances in this lifetime can change what happened in a past life. i never saw this man again that i saw 4 years ago. i believe that this man that talked to me while doing past life regression may have never really crossed over. i feel that maybe we are not supposed to remember out past life love because if we did remember now, we would be spending our present current lives looking for them. i believe that in several past lives, we had past life loves. once, i also had a dream about being a young girl in love with another man who was in love with me. i think it was during the 1800's. we might find our past life loves in this lifetime, but they probably wont be exactly the same.

Answer 4

Look after yourself first. The absolute #1 priority is you. Surround yourself with a happy, loving, carefree, no judgment, environment. Find out what you want in life. Maybe try a new hairstyle of clothing arrangement. Do something exciting and for you.

Once you've looked after yourself, put yourself out there again. It may be hard at first... all the memories, all the moments, all the inside jokes, everything that made you two work... But just remember, it's all about you. You've learnt your lessons and you've experienced what was meant to happen.

So look after yourself and put yourself out there to meet someone that is going to be perfect for you.

Answer 5

Find new things to occupy your time - start a new hobby - anything to concentrate your mind. Although you'll never truly forget - the memory of the past trauma you suffered will fade until you'll simply stop caring about it.

Answer 6

You will never forget, - but you can learn to live with it. Get involved in other things, preferably other good relationships.