How can you ask mom to stop drinking wine?

Answer 1

I dont think there is anything that you can do accept try to tell her how you feel - my mum is an alcoholic and she has been since i was born, ive had to grow up accepting that there is nothinh that i can do to stop her, it is her desicion and it doesnt matter how much you want her to stop, only she can stop it. i know it hurts to here this, ive been told by sooo many people this and i didnt believe them, nor did i accpet it at first, i tried to scare my mum into not drinking by attempting suicide, slef harming and running away but non of these helped, just made things worse. Im 13 now and learnt that its her choice and all you can do is encourage her to stop, and maybe try and find the route of the problem? it might help you to understand hwy she does this, i found out that my mum was depressed and that helped me understand - i really wish you well and i wish you happiness - i hope this helps xxx

Answer 2

Having a drinking problem does not mean that a person is alcoholic, or addicted to alcohol. The person may only need to cut down rather than abstain. Many find the idea of drinking in moderation more acceptable and achievable than abstaining entirely from alcohol.

The decision whether to reduce drinking to moderate levels or abstain entirely from alcohol is best made after consulting with a doctor.

Helping a person who drinks too much takes knowledge, compassion and patience. Some actions are helpful and others are not.

Do

• Try to remain calm, unemotional and factually honest about how the person's drinking abuse hurts you and others.
• Discuss the problem with someone you trust - a friend, clergy person, social worker, or someone who has experienced alcohol abuse or Alcoholism either personally or as a family member.
• Try to maintain a healthy, normal atmosphere in the home and try to include the alcoholic or problem drinker in family life.
• Encourage new interests and participate in leisure activities that the problem drinker enjoys and encourage the person to see old friends in non-drinking situations.
• Be patient and live one day at a time. Changing behavior is difficult, as dieters and those attempting to stop smoking know. Setbacks and relapses are to be expected. Try to accept them with calm understanding and don't become discouraged.

Don't

• Punish, threaten, bribe, preach, or try to be a martyr. Avoid emotional appeals that may only increase the problem drinker's feelings of guilt and compulsion to drink.
• Cover up or make excuses for an alcoholic or shield a person from the consequences of alcohol abuse.
• Take over the responsibilities of an abuser of alcohol.
• Hide or dump bottles of alcohol, or shelter a problem drinker from situations where alcohol is present.
• Argue with a person who is intoxicated.
• Drink with an alcohol abuser.
• Accept guilt for the behavior of a problem drinker.

Remember that changing behavior, especially becoming an abstainer, is very difficult. Be understanding and patient, but don't accept any responsibility or guilt for the behavior of another person. You are responsible only for your own behavior.