I am so sorry this has happened to you and of course it's a shock. However, this is not uncommon. Spouses that have children wait for the children to leave home before separating or deciding on divorce. While rearing children sometimes the couple doesn't balance out the time for each other and when the children leave home the couple are left looking at each other as if they were total strangers and this is where trouble can rear it's ugly head. There isn't much you can do at this point. Try communicating with him and ask him why he wants to leave the marriage. Don't yell or scream, but try to find out what is going through his head. Generally it's because some men or women want to recapture their young or feel there are more things in life they want to do as they know they are rapidly getting older. These thoughts happen to most of us. There is always health programs on women regarding peri menopause to menopause, but little on men's Andropause which is actually a type of menopause like women. Men can get hot flashes, depression, mood swings. If he is 40 plus then you can bet he's going through something. Some men will deal with it, others will only have a few symptoms and think nothing of it and some men will want to recapture their youth and may change their hairstyle, dress differently trying to recapture that youth they once possessed. Women can go through the same thing. Divorce can take awhile. You could pack his bags and tell him 'there's the door.' Let him know you love him. This is a good time for you to reflect on your marriage as well and you may find you do not love him as much as you think (you both may have fallen out of love.) There is nothing to be frightened of. By law you will get monies, etc., to provide for yourself. You also would have the freedom to do things you may have never had the chance to do. You could go back to college (I did when I was older) go to work or take courses in something you enjoy and then go back to work. If you are working then take a vacation to think things out. Sometimes people need the freedom from each other, but often 'the grass on the other side of the fence isn't always greener' and your husband needs to find this out. Unless your husband is wealthy then any young girl he may date will only hang around him for a short time because he won't be able to keep up and money speaks volumes! If you read 'relationships' on this board you will find out that often a man or woman will leave the marriage only to realize they had given up something precious and really do love their mate, but unfortunately sometimes it's just too late. Don't stop him, pack those bags of his, don't shed a tear in his presence, tell him you love him and let him hit the bricks. Let him experience what reality really is about. He may enjoy his new found freedom for awhile, but that will wane soon. It always does. It can be lonely out there. Meanwhile you have a good cry, quit blaming yourself, get up and dust yourself off and get moving! Continue working or find a job. Keep busy and go out and have fun with friends and make new friends along the way as well. You just never know, you may find another man that is better suited to your personality (it happens all the time!)
let it happen. im sorry to say but he probably wont change his mind
ANSWER: Even if your husband is an affair material, that will not be his legit reason why he is having an affair. It can't be that he is not getting his needs at home, it will explain why he ask you to marry him if he will betrayed you.
No
if he is accusing you of having an affair, when you are not.
Yes, that is why he is having an affair.
Maybe he is just trying to get the feeling back because of his alleged impotence. If you were getting a divorce in the first place why are you worry about his having an affair?
No, it is not a mistake to tell the husband his wife was having an affair with your husband. However, some wives can be in denial and they may not believe their husband is cheating, but most do.
Confront him/her and tell the truth, if you are or aren't having a(n) affair with her boyfried/husband/fiance.
if you leave his cheating butt, he is no longer having an affair, he's getting laid elsewhere...you should be healing your emotional wounds and standing on your feet NOT your knees
No she is not having an affair. The person she has been calling is actually her husband Ricky. They are using role play.
Maybe if you are still living with your husband, the guilt of having an adulterous affair has gotten to his conscience. If you are separated from your husband, maybe he feels the "baggage" is too much for him to take on.
he might be having a affair with you and her.
He was having a extramarital affair with Camilla Parker Bowles