You say you raised him yet he is not living with you so clearly his mother has been there too. He cannot choose where to live until he is 18. Being a lesbian does not make you unfit as a parent.
If you want permanent custody you have to petition the court to be appointed the child's legal guardian. In order to be successful you must provide convincing evidence that the mother is unfit and the child would be better off with you. His father would also be notified of the petition and would be given the opportunity to object.
You should consult with an attorney who specializes in custody issues.
The person with full custody has the right to have the child live with them permanently and has the right to make all decisions regarding the child without interference.
Get a custody hearing from a court and see where they can take it from there. You must prove you are capable of looking after the child long term in a safe and nurturing environment. Get a good lawyer.
If your grandson is under 18, then his mother is his legal guardian and has custody over him. Therefore, if she says no, then the answer is no. If your grandson is over 18, he gets to decide where to live.
file for modification of custody listing reasons the child is in danger or why your home is more beneficial if the child is in state custody and be prepared to back your statement up in open court with evidence and testimony
You haven't provided his age or the details of the "other family". He can make that decision when he reaches eighteen years of age. If he is still a minor the parents in the other family would need to establish legal custody in the court where you obtained custody. You would need to relinquish custody.
Yes, just file for Welfare, they will take care of it. Regardless of her resources, she can get help.
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Go talk to a family lawyer and tell thim the situation. They will be able to tell you what you need to do. You need to do this right away, for the child's sake.
You should contact a local family law attorney and sue for custody http://www.michaeljmcphillips.com/PracticeAreas/FamilyLaw.html
It would require a custody order change, which is not in your best interest. Contact with both your parents is more important than your friends. However, you could ask for joint custody of them. see links
pove the parents are unfit. Social service could be called for problems. If the parents are unfit, you could apply for custody.
not if you are the biological parent