Sorry, but I laughed and laughed when I saw your post because I just recently went through the same thing. My hubby and I are best friends as well as lovers, but sometimes they can rely on you for their sole entertainment and it drives me wild too. I believe both people in a relationship need head space. I sure do need mine these days. I have told him he needs to get out with his buddies more and either go golfing, fishing or whatever. He just grins and follows me through the house! I swear it's psychological because when we were first married that all he wanted to do was go fishing, golfing, hiking with his buddies every weekend and the argument would start. We had one TV and he watched every hockey and football game known to man and it ruined some of my movie time. Now, when I encourage him to go out with his friends he's plastered to me like a cheap suit. LOL
Well, I fixed that one real quick. I bought him football tickets and he took a buddy this past Saturday. Then I booked him for a guided fishing trip for 2 days and there you have it! I've pulled sneakies and phoned up his best buddy who he has a great deal in common with and say, "Ernie was talking about going fishing, what do you think?" Right away (and according to my plan) his buddy jumps at the chance and then I say, "Well hey, he'll be home at 7 PM so give him a call!" A free weekend coming up for me! Men! It's so easy to fool 'em. LOL
I love him a great deal, but hey, like you, I want to catch up with my friends, do some things around the house I've been putting off and just kick up my feet, put the old fireplace on and veg out!
Good luckMarcy
Well to start, you need to really hate your husband. I mean you gotta want that son of a b**** to suffer. So we'll start off with something simple and not so evident. begin to cook disgusting meals for him. Do not make them LOOK disgusting, make them pretty but absolutely gross. Add giant amounts of chili pepper to everything, make him get a f****** stomach ulcer! If he tries to say anything, be like OK then you can buy your meals because I'm not cooking for you asnymore. Once your not cooking you have much more free time to spend on yourself. After he's done with eating your food, begin to give him dirty looks, pick fights with him and critisize him. if he asks what's wrong with you say he doesn't give you attention and he hates your food. Pick a fight with him about his sense of style, then his car and then his friends. The fight about his friends must be HUGE. During this period of breaking up, do not have sex or show any interest in him. Do not clean the house, only the areas you use. Always complain to him. Do not have any conversations with him, complain and make fights only. One day make collect his things, put them into boxes and put them outside. If he asks WTF...tell him you are sick of him complaining and fighting with you all the time and tell him you want a break. Enjoy =)
If his name is on the mortgage and/or the title and there is no domestic violence going on, then you would need to do something legal in order to enforce his moving out, like a formal separation. Or, get a divorce and get your affairs settled that way. Otherwise, you are stuck until he decides to move out on his own. In some circumstances, you could move out without losing rights to the home.
take him to therapy to get it straightened out....or if you really feel threatened get a divorce..and if you don't retaliate to either one of these suggestions, you're on your own buddy
Speak to a lawyer - they will help you get the sheriff and an order to remove him from the home.
tell him what you think of him. If he still wants you out take all that's worth something
Become the person he hates. Or just tell him that you don't feel right being together.
* This is called 'mental abuse' and it can be just as bad as physical abuse; physical abuse leaves scars you can see, but mental abuse can leave psychological scars that you or others are not aware of. People who 'put down' their partner are actually insecure in themselves. If your husband is not physically abusive to you then it's time you gave yourself a boost in confidence and stood up for yourself and tell him he either gets some counseling (both of you) or the marriage is over. If he refuses then it's to your best interest to leave the marriage because as years pass mental abuse can often turn into physical abuse or the husband can leave without warning.
What is a potential sign of physical abuse
I believe mental abuse is worse. Physical abuse the marks eventually go away. Mental abuse , those scars may never go away depending on how much abuse there was.
No, Mental abuse and irreconcilable differences are not recognized by SC
Now a days you can sue anyone for anything. But you should get a great lawyer. And its probably going to be a hard case... and you don't really have a chance of winning unless you have proof of the mental abuse, the proof would be what your therapist or psychologist says.
NO -- Of course they can, anybody can abuse anybody.
yes
Mental abuse.
One name for that is "mental cruelty". It is not legally abuse, but it is certainly emotional abuse. There is no excuse for it, and it is not likely to get better unless the two of you get some extensive counseling. If he is unwilling to get counseling, consider the future of the relationship to be pretty grim. Its verbal abuse
Mental abuse towards husbands is:Their wife constantly nagging at them 24/7A wife that is not willing to communicate with her husband and resolve the problems at hand.Calling their husband names such as 'loser' to 'you're a lousy lover' or, 'I should have married _____instead of you.'A wife giving constant 'silent treatments' which wears away at the husband.A wife putting her husband down in public. Believe me, she will take the heat for this one because no one likes to witness a partner putting down their mate.Trying to control the money brought into the house and not giving much of it to her husband or, having the husband come to her for money and explaining why he needs it.Getting into arguments when the husband may want to go fishing, golfing or to a bar on occasion with his male friends.Trying to control every aspect of their marriage.A wife that is constantly jealous of all females around their husband whether at a family gathering or a party.
I wouldn't use that for a divorce reason etc...but I would seperately sue my husband in a heartbeat... Extremely cruel and warped behaviors..that have had horrible results....and caused extreme emotional damages... These pukes have got to own up to this sick warped crap...and sueing is darn good idea....in My Opinion!
It can be considered a form of mental and physical abuse.