How can you tell if your husband could be a pedophile?
That's a difficult question to answer because most pedophiles
know how to hide their urges. In my case, my husband is indeed a
pedophile (and he later on admitted to me what he did to my eldest
daughter), and I divorced him thereafter. He has been convicted
(here in France) of sexually abusing my eldest daughter when she
was only 9 years old.
So now looking back, was there some signals that I missed? Let
He was overly close to my oldest daughter (not his daughter but
mine) when we started out. Of course, I thought that it was just
because he really cared about my daughters. So, this is not really
a good signal.
He would go araound naked in the house and not be embarassed at
all to show my girls. I think this could be a signal.
He told me that I should not allow my girls to sleep with
underwear. His reason is that it was not healthy. This I think
could be a 'signal - his out of the norm preoccupation about this
kind of thing.
He was very secretive. He passworded his access to his PC (at
home) and would not share it even though we shared finances, etc.
While on the other hand, he knew my passwords. This I think is a
He offered marijuana to my girls when they were at the age of 14
and 16. This I think is a very strong signal perhaps of not
pedophilia but corruption of minors.
He was always bribing my eldest daughter. When my eldest
daughter became a teenager, he would tell me that he thinks that
she is becoming sexually promiscuous and that I should not allow
her to go to parties. But most times, when my eldest daughter asked
him for permission, he would say yes - making me look bad. This, as
I now look back - should have alerted me that there is something
He would make sexual jokes to my girls even when they were only
11 / 13 years of age.
He was very controlling. He wanted to know what my daughters
were telling me. This I think could be a very strong signal.