How do you ask your wife if she still loves you and still wants to be married to you without hurting her?

Answer 1

Ok, do you still love her? Because if not, asking her about it is not cool; you should be having a whole different conversation. How to ask about love... Depends on how long you've been married, and all sorts of other factors like how your relationship is doing, but try this - Try setting up a romantic evening, and talk to her about how happy you are and stuff. Don't get into heavy topics that bring up arguments - keep it light and nice. Make an effort to entertain her but don't be pushy - be nice and genuine, be sweet. Make it a date, with a nice meal and a movie or something. Get her talking and really, really listen. When you're home and still talking, ask her - sort of thoughtful, like you're contemplating something far away - "Would you do it all over again the same? Mary me, all that stuff?" If she asks why, and I guarantee she will, tell her you've been thinking how lucky you are to have her and that you're just glad she's there. Tell her you talked to someone who was in a wicked messed up relationship and it made you realize how fortunate you are and you want to let her know that. This is where you could, if you wanted, ask her what you could do to improve your relationship - more sex? Less sex? More time together? Less time together? See what she thinks, without getting angry. Be serious and thoughtful, but not pushy. Listen to her carefully and think about what she says. If you pay attention you could learn something from her about your relationship...