How do you be a gay sissy?
because i was ment to be a women and love to please men
It depends entirely on the context. If a person identifies as gay, then calling them gay is not offensive. In fact, it is infinitely preferable to call them queer, homo, fairy, sissy, etc. However, it is offensive to use gay as a pejorative (e.g. "I hate that guy, he's so gay,") or to use gay as an all-purpose word for something bad (e.g. "Wow, that stupid show was gay").