How do you convince your girlfriend to let the baby go for adoption?

Answer 1

You simply explain why it is that you want to give the baby up for adoption. It can be a very selfish decision to keep a child, or selfish to give it up. Gather some facts, keep it real. Tell her how you feel and why you think it is a good idea. Other than that. It's pretty much out of your control.

Try to explain that raising a child is more than just giving birth, it is a 100% commitment to the baby, and only the baby. I don't know the age of the mother-to-be, but there is no more going out when she feels like it. The cost of diapers, formula, clothing, visits to the pediatrician, are only a few of the financial issues. The physical and mental fatigue is as bad, if not worse. She must be able to handle the feedings, survive on little or no sleep, tend to the crying, any illness, and have patience in the event the baby has the Colic. If she feels that she is not able to do this, and especially with little or no emotional support, she needs to think through every single scenario. To keep a child that she may not be ready to raise could turn in to a catastrophe. It may be wise to speak with her, and really do your research on adoption. If she is worried about the baby being taken care of and loved, the state agencies get really involved with the perspective adoptive parents. We have been through state, federal, and local criminal checks, psychological and physical checks, and out home has been gone over with a magnifying glass. There is more options for adoption than she may know about. If you and she would like an open adoption, you can request regular pics and updates on the baby. That may ease her mind in knowing that she will still have some contact with the baby. Adoption can work for all that is involved.