How do you get over a love obsession?

Answer 1

I am obessed with a guy 20 years younger than me we met accidentally through a friend who is gay like me, he is from western samar, Philippines,at first i thought it was just a fling, sex, but then i fell in love with the person. to cut the story short we met so many times, believe it or not i haven't have a serious relationship with a guy before, i became obbessed by wanting him to come to my house in cavite, where he manage to come personally, i even take a trip to manila just to take him to cavite, the worst is i am staying with my niece who is at his same age 17, at first i was uncomfortable with this situation, i hide him in my room without the knowledge of my niece, we have sex so many times,and i like the feeling, this became to often but by wanting him to be with me always , i give him money and loads for cellphone just for us to have contact, this thing became already a habit! money, sex, but no love, this thing lasted for 7 months, but as lovers we had lots of understanding, i became jealous of everthing, you name it, feelin of depression of not seeing him by my side and insecurities of him having someone else, this thing almost made me an insane person, he is a sewer by profession and me just a nanny of my niece and nephew, when he started to became different he has humiliated me,choke me,say bad words to me but still i continue our relationship because i love him, but this person only uses me! the worst part came when he had a job in qc, we still meet in cavite, he came every Sunday not for me but for money, so money and sex again! the worst came when one day, Sunday last month of January 2009, we had an argument, he told me he only uses ne because of my money that he don't like me because im gay, its hurts to hear that from him,so we finally broke up, after a week, i decided to find him in his work in Quezon City, the place is familiar,its the place where i lived for 25 years before i came with my sister in cavite, how unfortunate, one afternoon i saw him in a canteen where he eats regularly, he was surprised to see me ,again he humiliate me in front of so many people, i was devastated, he told me we're through, that he will never want to see my face anymore, i told him why? but he pick a stone and try to throw at me! so i was numb don't know what to do, you know just to see him or talk to him, at a nearby mcdonalds i stayed and watch him come out, i even stay wholeday like a crazy person tryin to see whether he will come out from the building where he works, this idea lasted for 1 month, i go home at night for cavite, then leave the following day for manila just for him to forgive me! my sister who is supporting me because of my niece came home this march for a vacation, later she knows that i had a lot of bilings to pay,all the money she gave me went to my lover! my sister got mad at me for the unpaid bilings, she never knew of my relationship with this guy or she will kick me out of his house, wqhen she finally left this march, i still manage to have contact with this guy, finally 1 day he suddenly texted me and he says he wants to see me! because he knows my sister came from abroad so he thinks a had a lot of money, i decided to see him again after what he has done to me, but he still has not change, i thiought he was ready to forgive me but money talks again! now i am sick and tired of him and willing to let hom go, o knew he needed money for his fare for samar this may that why he texted me! but all along he left this week for samar but he cheated me again he is in manila,i don't know of his whereabouts! still i am concerned with this person but i don't know what to do! he told me in his last text that he wants me to stay away for a moment and never want to see me again! i am still confused at this moment i love him but i have to let go of the feeling! is this an example of an obessed person? help me please!