How do you get over a married man if he always tells you he loves you and wants you and he's going to leave his wife but can't right now and how do you know if he's being truthful?

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Everyone has there own opinion and I really don't know the whole story on this situation, but it sounds to me like he has put you on a shelf until he figures out whether or not he is positive about leaving his wife....You need to find a single man that will fall in love with you and wont have to worry about leaving a wife....Just think " If he is cheating on his wife with you wont he do it again to his next lover/wife which will be you next" So just think hard, you are being used and you deserve better... I honestly don't think he has any intentions on leaving his wife, and as long as you let him go back and forth between the two of you he will continue doing so.....so don't let him get away with it and tell him if he loves you like he says he does he will leave his wife of forget him because he cant have his cake and eat it to..but I am 18 and I have never been in the position you are and I probably don't need to give advice but i love to help people. but you deserve better and more then what he is giving to you ...Good luck,..and don't let him keep going back and forth between the two of you.....

AnswerI am sorry to say, but you aren't hearing the messenger. You say that you are trying to get over him, but it's obvious you are still seeing him or you wouldn't be hearing those lies coming from his greased lips! Yup, this guy is doing a con job on you. I bet he's older too! Older men know how to manipulate young women because they are older and been around the block a lot. They know the right words to say while getting what they want. The messenger is saying "This jerk is not going to leave his wife!"

I am really sad that so many young women don't get the drift of what these men are doing to his wives (perhaps children) and that these wives have feelings just like you do. This man once loved his wife and now he's cheating on her! Why would any young woman want to waste her precious time on such a jerk! Do you think you're special? Do you think you are better than his wife? Well you aren't and if you should snag a married guy into leaving his wife he either won't put that engagement ring on your finger or, if by chance he does marry you, he'll cheat again when he gets tired enough of you.

I am sorry to hurt you in this way, but the truth does hurt, and please, for your own sake don't date married men. They take up precious time from your youthful years and more than that they take your dignity and pride. If you meet a man that is divorced then that is a whole different ball game.

Get that dignity and pride back girl, and kick this jerk to the curb!

AnswerYou don't know he is being truthful unless he leaves his wife.

I am in this situation myself and I have now severed all contact with him. I will not wait for this situation to change any longer, I am worth more than being second best. If he does leave his wife, and I am available, then so be it. I know it is hard to get over someone you love, especially if they say they love you too and I'm sure his reasons seem justifiable to you at this time. How long would you be willing to wait? 6 weeks, 6 months, 6 years? Think how you would feel, if after all this time waiting, he changed his mind and decided to stay. Please don't delay living your life for a promise..

AnswerI was your situation & found the best way to the truth is to reveal everything to his family. I did so with mine & found out how he really thinks & feels about me & it wasn't nice, despite all the "Ilove you"s & "I can't live without you"s he had been uttering only moments before. Men will quickly adapt to having 2 women meeting their needs whereas it's a rare woman who can do this. Many men will remain in their marriage because of the stigma & risk separation brings. Mine wouldn't leave because of what his father would think. It takes a strong man to leave his wife & those are the married men you should be going for, if at all. These men at least have some integrity & quickly realise how selfish it is to cause so much pain to those they profess to love. Ironically it becomes more difficult to leave as the affair goes on longer, the way of life becomes entrenched & the man usually becomes stuck.

Remember the truth is that any man who is prepared to lie to their wife & children will have absolutely no qualms about lying to teir mistress, whatever promises they make & he has already broken the biggest promise he ever made by seeing you.

MAN PROBLEMSYou get the hell out of the situation as fast as you can. He does not love you, plus why would you be with a married man? No one with any experience in situations like this would council you any differently. You (and he) made a mistake. Your best advice would be to think about yourself and what you need to do to "get clear" of this man and the situation. If he continues to call or whatever, you have leverage in that you can threaten to tell his wife. There will be time for grief and recriminations later. Right now, it is important to break the ties and step clear and get moving. How do you get over a married manwell,in the first place you shouldn't be seeing a married man,but it is your choice. I know from experience that they very rarely or ever leave their wives. The reason for this is because they still love their family life and don't want to lose everything they have built up in the marriage,because they know they would lose their ass in a divorce. Then again he could possibly still love his wife and doesn't really want a divorce just alittle on the side. If these married men even thought the little wife was doing the same thing or even thought about it they wouldn't put up with it for a minute. It's a EGO thing for some of these men to think they are studs if they can juggle two women at the same time. When and if he is finally caught he will drop you like a hot potato,this is if he is really in love with his wife. I would move on as fast as I could if I were you. Months and possibly years are being wasted stayinhg with a man like this.

Its not easy to do..

I hate to say this but I will, though. I am in love with a married man. But I think I have a claim over him more than his wife does. We were together for two years before he met his wife. It was an unwise decision he made. First, we broke up because of a very unacceptable reason. We had a lot of misunderstanding that month. Secondly, after trying to make things work again, we just can't. So we were drifting apart. And HE decided to end our relationship. He told me I wasted his two years. Of course hurtful words were said. But if you will see through it, it will hurt you because of two reasons, one is pride, second is "because you love him dearly". I go for second. Weeks after we broke up he get hmself a new girlfriend. Brought her in his house, introduce her to his family. After a month he accidentally get this girl pregnant. And so that's the story! He had to marry her. And I was stuck. I was hurt. I was in total agony of having to see him everyday with his wife and kid. He's my neighbor, mind you. But there's something I forgot to mention. His dad was very sick and He was like compelled to give him a grandchild already. I was pressured and frustrated at the same time.. I was still studying, I was in third year of my major. That's the reason we had a lot of misunderstanding. Trust was lost, we got even! He got himself a new GF and of course i did the same. And now, we can't get over ourselves. I love him. He loves me. But he's married so there's no way things will be brought back to the way it used to be. But we did. We are together now. Though he hasn't left his wife yet. He can't FOR NOW. Why? because his wife has nothing to do with us. Because his wife hasn't done anything wrong with me, and with him. Because his wife had been nothing but good to him and to his kid. Its just LOVE that's between me and him. We're happy when we're together and we are EXTREMELY sad when his with his wife. How would you know if he's being truthful? Me? I'm weighing things. Him being honest about the goodness his wife shows to him and their son, him being honest about being unable to leave his wife for now coz there's really no reason to do so except for the fact that HE loves me more than his wife. You see guys, sometimes, there's really reason why young women hold on to married man. Its wrong in the eyes of many people, but all things has reasons behind. We will not choose to be in this situation if we are just plain stupid. Or yes, most people are stupid, when it comes to loving somebody so much you don't care if what you're doing is wrong or right.

I am in the same situation now but the difference is my bf (married man) choses me against his wife because he doesnt love his wife anymore and he dont want to stay in a relationship with no spark, no care and no love. For him his child will be the one who suffer most because of daily fighting routine and no sweetness at all. And whatever consequences may occur between us i am ready to face and accept it, because I chose to be happy with the man i truly love and he chose to stay with as his true love..

Answeryou are getting played. Hes trying to fulfill the fantasy of two women at once. Most men have tried. Nearly all are successful at some point. Stop thinking with your heart. Think with your head.