How do you handle a daughter's physically and emotionally abusive relationship?

Unfortunately, if your daughter won't listen to good advice and she is in denial there isn't much you can do, unless her spouse is physically abusive to her in your home and then you have every right to phone the police and have him arrested. Women that are abused are not stupid. An abuser (without realizing it) makes their web around their victim like a spider to a fly. It can start out very suttle and end up ugly. Some good signs of an abusive personality are a person that does not like interacting with her family on occasion, or they refuse to mingle with her friends and often abusers love to move to either another town or to a deserted area. They usually pick out-of- the-way places where they can surround themselves with their own familiar environment and render their victim useless. Abusers usually come from disfunctional families, but every so often you get one that has had a great up-bringing and is just mean to the bone. An abuser will first start picking away at the abused by lowering their self esteem. Then they will methodically plan their next attack which is to put the fear of God into her. They may even tell her if she doesn't shut-up and keep their dirty little secret quiet he will harm her family or (in many cases) take the children away from her and she'll never see them again. The above sounds dramatic and surreal, but believe me when I say it isn't. I help abused women so I have heard many different scenerios and they don't make a pretty picture. When you can, just tell your daughter you love her and that you are always there for her and if she decides to leave him you will be there for her. If you ignore or insult her abuser he has the power to keep your daughter from you. You want to stay in contact so bite your tongue and pick your time to try and get this guy away from her. I suggest you get in touch with your local "Women's Abuse Center" in your area (if you can't find them, then phone Mental Health in your area and they will put you in touch with the Abused Women's Center) and they will be happy to guide you through trying to free your daughter from this guy. Good luck God Bless Marcy For guidance you might wish to contact the National Domestic Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Their site can be found at... http://www.ndvh.org