What should you do if you are remarried but still in love with your ex?

Answer 1

This actually happened to me... I left my wife for another woman, divorced one and married the other.

Now the problems started because I was still very much in love with my ex, and the steamy 3 year affair I had with my new wife wasn't as steamy anymore. The sex was still real good (better than with my ex), however, my heart was not as involved as my man parts were and it was killing me to see my ex, even when she wasn't there to physically see. I actually left my New wife after less than 1 year married to her, and was fortunate enough to be able to get back with my ex. Now I am home where I have always belonged. And after the last 7 years that we have been remarried to my original wife, I finally have her trust back. There's no place like home in the heart.

And you have to ask yourself... why are they an ex? Are they your True love? Will it really work? Are they still available? If all checks out what are you wasting time for? Go get them back and don't look back. Life is short get what's yours.

The grass really isn't greener on the other side, lust is sometimes a nasty foe to LOVE.

Another view

I also felt this before, then I was thinking, why marry someone that you don't really love? Because before, when we were still together, he just hurt me. I finally got tired of it so we broke up. But still, there is that feeling that you're missing him so I tried to look for someone who would help me forget him. Then there came a time that he asked to be with you again. But of course, you're afraid that he might hurt you again. So I chose the one that I have now.

Two years ago we met again and I just found out that he was still waiting for me, I was really overwhelmed and that happy feeling came back again, but it was too late. I was already pregnant. He was really hurt because he thought that I still loved him and was also waiting for him. Actually he was correct, no one can make me feel the feeling that he brings out in me, even if I just saw him.

So, before making a move, think about it first. Because it's really hard

when it's too late and you can't get back what had been yours before.

Another view

You need to choose. Marriage is about committing yourself. Not about being with someone you love but at the same time thinking about someone else. It's a bond and a commitment. You can't do that to someone if you don't know how it would feel if someone had that happening to you. It wouldn't be nice to be married to someone you love but they don't love you as much or are thinking about someone else. You need to choose. Either that or break it off and stay single for a bit. Maybe flirt around a while and you might seem to figure out if she/he was really the one or if you need to move on and find a better person in your life.

There are more fish out there in the sea than you think. You just got to find the right one.

Another view

Hope for the best or divorce, to figure things out instead of hurting the ones you love.

Another View

Everybody had feelings for all their relationships. Even if its a set up, eventually they will fall for each other. You got to interfere with your spirits. Get a paper and pen. Say what you dislike about each one of them. Ask your self who will be best for your life, kids and who is better in being a husband or more as a father. Love is all a trick, you have to be careful and put your love instincts behind your thoughts.

Answer 2

You didn't mention if the child was your ex boyfriends or your husbands. Sometimes when things don't go well in our marriages it's easy to wish for a simpler life and you may think that you would be happier with your ex than with your husband. Really think about this. It's better to ask your husband if you could go and visit relatives or even go for a 3 day weekend with a girlfriend so you could get some head space to really think things out. I've learned through my many years that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. You now have a child and if that child is your husbands then you really need to think about what your future actions will be. As you can see from this board many people have made bad mistakes that they can't rectify. When you hurt someone that loves you sometimes that person can't trust you again and is not willing to take you back. No one said marriage was easy so hopefully you will think this out and whatever problems you have in this marriage you will try and work out with your husband.

Answer 3

Oh wow that one is hard but i gotta say you have to talk to your ex and you husband and disscuss who you love more! and then maybe get a divorce!♥

ANSWER

You have made your choice, therefore your husband must come first in your life. Remember the words, "For better or worse". You must put you Ex boyfriend out of your mind, he does not belong to you any more than you belong to him.

The fault must lie with you and not your husband, though you do not say what sort of a relationship you both share. None the less, and though you may not know it, you are committing adultery in your mind. Devote your time and your love to the man you married and not to what could have been.

Answer 4

Your really going to have to sort out your feelings, you should not have went through with your marriage if you were this uncertain and unsure of where your feelings ly. This is a difficult situation and you are married now and the best thing you can do is leave the past in the past and move forward with what is current and your marriage. Your ex is your ex for a reason.

Answer 5

walk away......