How do you kindly tell your significant other No?
Say it with perspective. "No hunny, I am not in the mood." or
"No, I'm not ready." This is better then, "No, your trying too
hard" or "No I don't want you." Saying I rather
than You makes a world of difference. Also, don't
wait til the last minute to say it. Tell him/her what it is that
your saying No to and why before it comes up.