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How do you know if you are abusive or if the other person is?

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Sounds like you have quite the fury of a relationship and if so, then it is very hard to tell in some cases who is abusing who. It's human nature that when we are cornered on a physical basis (someone threatening to hit us) some people either take it or some fight back, so it's the person attacking that is the abuser and the other person is the victim. If it's a verbal argument and one partner goes out of their way to put their mate down constantly or in front of others and the mate does nothing about it it's not your fault, but theirs. If the same occurrence happens and you fight back verbally then you have stooped to the bottom of the barrel that the verbal abuser is at. Either way when a relationship gets to the point of constant physical or verbal abuse it's time to get away from the situation. There is much help out there for both men and women of physical abuse. You can also leave and seek counseling.

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