How do you know your boyfriend loves you when he doesn't even pay for groceries and doesn't even buy any gift for you?

Answer 1

Young men are a strange lot, and often mothers spoil their sons and their laundry, groceries, etc., are provided for them even after they are out of high school. It is a noted fact that girls mature quicker than boys. It's an adjustment to live with someone. It's important that you sit down with him (be nice about it) and tell him what you require of him and that means paying for half of the groceries and if you both work that means he helps you with the housework as well.

I am sorry to say I think he's into a "me generation" and that doesn't necessarily make him a bad person. Some men never think to buy their mate a gift, but they can be trained! LOL If he doesn't improve it's time you moved on because each person must share in a relationship, communicate and treat each other with respect. If he digs in his heels, doesn't improve then he doesn't love or respect you. You deserve better!

Good luck Merry Christmas - Marcy

2What have groceries and presents got to do with love? As you partner he should be pulling his weight but remember a gift is not something anyone is owed or should expect, it HIS gift to give to you should he choose to. The most valueble thing he can offer you is his frienship, support and consideration. by all means if these are lacking you've got a dud. 3Groceries and gifts are not signs of love. See if he treats you like a friend as well as a girlfriend, and if he sincerely listens to you when you need him. See if he is willing to put his needs aside for your own. Those are much better ways for knowing if he loves you. 4These people are all right but don't look for love in gifts you gots to look for love in your hearts.Love is about sharing with each other signs of careness or signs of happieness, not gifts in any way just let me leave you with this grosseries have to do with nothing but money but if money means more to you then your love then that's not right. money won't get you anywhere because money does not last forever or for eternity but love could last for a life time. It maybe him too maybe he should chip in a little bit but love has nothing to do with it. so if your love for money is stronger then the love you have for him your maybe with the wrong man.

-Vanessa-

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i agree with vanessa here, a guy buying you gifts ain't all there is to love, youll know he loves you because he respects you and is honest with you

my boyf has aspergers which means i have to TELL him when i want a surprise gift, or tell him he should have asked if im ok or need help so sometimes its nothing to do with the guy being a "loser" or 'classless' as one poster suggested

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id say that most men in general seem to have a tiny form of aspergers where they just arnt tuned into what a woman feels or needs, men can be very insensitive

that's men tho, and they need the same training as a dog most of the time haha

but if its your birthday and he still wont get you a gift then hes either got particular beliefs about love and the symbolisms of gift buying or he is infact after all a loser

you would have to talk to him about it first because he probably hasn't a clue this is happening, as i said most men seem to have a tiny form of aspergers, where they don't understand or see what you feel and you have to constantly tell them.

look at the sites on aspergers as there is always the possibility he could have that and hasn't been diagnosed as its a hard problem to diagnose properly, its a social disease and will cause problems involving people and how to interact with them.

hope you get the love you want and deserve

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