You need to make her believe you could never risk it again because you need her more than anything in the world, and all without being clingy. Buy her some things she likes without going overboard, plan to spend alone time with her so she's all you're focused on at that moment, and let her know what you're up to from time to time without her even having to ask; show her that you're serious about winning back her trust.
When your husband has an affair and apologizes this is not good enough to fully trust him because he decided on his own to break that bond of trust you both once had for each other by having the affair. Make him earn your trust back and if he really loves you and is not a man that has had more than one affair then seek marriage counseling to help give you the tools to make your marriage stronger.
An affair is a betrayal of trust, and it is very hard to be comfortable and intimate with someone (your husband or anyone else) when your trust has been betrayed.
Counseling helps.
Yes, when a spouse has been cheated on they are emotionally confused; deeply hurt; lose of trust and anger. To have another affair with someone else breaks the bond of trust that was in the marriage vows and most married couples try to make an effort to be honest with each other, but, unfortunately this idea of honesty seems to be fading quickly by the high statistics of cheating spouses, but a small percentage do make it through a long marriage without either having an affair.
he dont trust you...
Get another girl and you'll have an affair.
You will have to think very clearly about telling your husband about having an emotional affair. Most men do not believe a woman can have an emotional affair and not have a sexual relationship. There is a high possibility that your husband may not believe that when you had an affair there was no sex involved although this is highly possible, but not in his mind. What you can do is learn good communication skills and you must have had your reasons (that clouded your judgment) to have an affair and you need to deal with these problems. Take time to think why you felt the need to have an emotional affair in the first place and then sit down with your husband and express why you are unhappy in the marriage and perhaps seek Marriage Counseling or the two of you could make a better effort with each other to make your marriage a more solid one. Once you have broken that bond of trust with your spouse it is difficult to gain their trust back.
Now that he has cheated on you the trust between the to of you is gone. But idf you could put aside his mistake and give him the opportunity to gain that trust back then you might be Abe to make it work depending on your love for him ..you have to ask yourself "can I still love this man?"
You cannot trust your husband as he is in it for sex and you are enabling his behavior. He is like a Tom cat doing as he wants while hurting you deeply and also using the woman for his own enjoyment. You are enabling his behavior and need to sit him down and talk things out. Make sure he understands you are not putting up with his affairs.
you can move on but you will never get over it or trust them ever again!
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what do you mean should you let her have an affair. If you wife wanted to have an affair she does not need your approval. Did, you get her approval. You sound somewhat stupid.