How do you stay married after your husband or wife has had an affair?

Answer 1

Time is what it will take. When someone has broken that bond of trust it's tough to get it back (if ever.) Communication is so very important (especially the second time around) and both of you need to spend some quality of time together and also touch base at least one hour in the evening. Talk about anything, or, if there are problems in your relationship and then learn to take each other's opinions and come to an amicable agreement. In time, if your husband is being a good boy, then you will learn to trust again, but, sorry to say your guard will never be down. No one likes to be made a fool of twice by the same person.

Answer 2

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Hard, very hard because the relationship that you have with your husband changed from the moment you found out that he was sleeping with another woman. I do not know from the other wife who have the same issue,, but I will tell you mine. Not to go on so much details, it was different and very awkward like I was having sex with a stranger. It didn't help me knowing that he told me after a while of seeing her, he started having deep feelings for this woman, so our sex was a bit awkward. I did know how it feels to have sex with the man I married before our problem, but since then its different like I do not know the man with me.

I never knew the things I heard and some books I read will be happening to me as well, like every time we do it, all I can see was the woman he was making love to, how he enjoy being with her, so that is the part of my problem. And one thing that ruined my stamina was when he told me the time, that making love with his mistress was the same. so for that, all I can think of was, if having sex with another woman was the same with me, he will not have no such problem on different women if he wanted to do it again. I even talked to the priest and a pastor just in case they have different answer, but I was wrong, the answer they gave me even it was different explanation was the same.

I don't know if this help you but believe in yourself, making love again with your husband will be different, sorry about that....

• When a husband has an affair he has broken that precious bond of trust so it will take hard work by both spouses so the trust is back in the marriage. If you can afford it perhaps a romantic holiday somewhere; a change of scenery often makes two people see things much more clearly. Marriage counseling would also help.

Answer 3

• Once that bond of trust is broken in any relationship that trust is difficult to earn back. You and your husband will need marriage counseling to help you realize what could be wrong with your marriage. No marriage is perfect. If this is your husband's first affair and he has not had others then you stand a good chance in your marriage of making it work. Although not an excuse sometimes either the wife, husband or both may have an affair because they feel they are either losing out on something exciting or, they are growing older and want to recapture their youth and prove to themselves that the opposite sex still finds them attractive. By communicating with your husband calmly and discussing how each of you feels and how can you resolve different problems in your marriage you need to communicate at least a half hour every day even if it is about other things in one's daily life. If your husband is truly sorry and regrets what he has done the chances of him wanting to please you and be honest is much higher. It is important you realize that humans are not 100% perfect and all of us make mistakes in different areas of our lives. You are much more aware of the signs of him cheating so it is not likely you will miss those red flags again and he knows it. In time and good communication skills and not fighting over the affair constantly the hurt will go away and your husband is the one that has to earn your trust back. Time is always the healer.

Answer 4

• When a husband has had an affair and returns to his marriage he has broken the bond of trust with his spouse and he has to earn that trust back. Seeing a Marriage Counselor is always helpful as well as trying to get away together even if it is just for a weekend so both spouses can reconnect and talk things out. It takes time and patience to learn to trust the spouse that cheated. If the husband has never cheated before and this is his first time then there is hope of the marriage mending, but if he has cheated more than once the wife may have to decide whether to stay in the marriage or not. If children are involved it is not always the best choice 'to stay together for the sake of the children' because the problem of the husband cheating is still there; the wife is suspicious and arguments may break out off and on. Children often feel they are the cause of the breakup.

Answer 5

...if you love them and believe in GOD , you`ll stay with them.