How do you tell him that he is cheating on you?

Answer 1

This question is inferring that you absoulutely without question know that he is cheating on you.

He KNOWS that he is cheating.

Before you tell him that you know, you must decide what you are going to do. How do you feel about the fact that he is untruthful and not trustworthy? How could you ever trust him again?

So, then the question is. What are you going to do when you confront him? Letting him have the ball in his court is NOT the answer. It is no longer about him. He is the cheater, the liar.

You must decide what you are going to do BEFORE having any conversation with him. If you are married, get an attorney ready. Clear the bank accounts.

The question should not have been how to tell him he is cheating on you. He should have been asking the question on how to tell you!

Now that you have your ducks lined up, with a place to live or his stuff out on the boulevard is the time to tell him. You must have the upper hand. The element of surprise. For either decision that you decide to make.

If you believe that you are still in love with this man and want to give him a second chance you need to make him know in no uncertain terms that you are not a door mat. He needs to believe that you are pissed as hell and leaving him. He may not want to continue a relationship with now that he has been found out. If you think this is the case, then good riddance anyway!

If you are not sure of what he is going to say it is a good idea to get a small recorder from radio shack. Be prepared for him to lie to you. Then later he will deny the lies.

Don't give him a heads up about the conversation. Act naturally, and start the conversation when you would normally see him. The fact that you do this will also give him a shock. Because he is taken aback he will be more likely to give you the answers you will need.

Personally, I have been through this. I would record him, because he will deny it to your friends and his family later.

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a man whom you can't bare your soul too? How about if you should get ill? We all need somebody to lean on is the truth. He is not that kind of a guy.

Answer 2

It's hard to find out if someone is cheating over a text since it's not a face-to-face conversation, but it's not impossible. If you see that they're starting to text in a different way, it might be a sign. But i'd be better if you discuss it face-to-face, or talk about it.